Please help

I am in a very strange situation- I am a married man with 2 kids, I am in deep love with a married woman with 1 kid. Now, it’s very difficult to live separately. Frustrated by lying to spouses and we cannot love them anymore. What shall we do? We are loving our kids very much. 9 years back I was living separately from my wife when she filed 498a, and my lover was not married that time. Then my wife withdraws the case and came back to life, but again started her cruelty to me. My lover also got married but was living abroad alone. We were keep connected and in deep love. Now we wanted to live together desperately. What all the consequences we Will have to face? What plans and steps we can do? Please suggest.