Dear Members,
Apologies for such a long post hope it will make a clear picture.
I got married in dec 2009, it was an arrange marriage as both the families know each other and we clearly asked them that if the girl is having any sort of relationship its a strict no from our side. They assured that there is nothing like that. I was actually working abroad when we got married & due to limited holidays i has to return leaving my wife back in india expecting that she will start her passport and visa formalities soon. Couple of months passed she didn't show any interest for passport/ visa and asked me why dont you come back we will stay and work here in India and she can also see her parents whenever she feels.
Basically, i returned back to India for good after 4 months of roller coaster through our minds. As she was working at that time so i thought its not bad idea to start from the same city. I was away from her for almost 3 months in search of better job opportunities to diffrenet cities. Sadly i got a job in the same city where she has been working and living from last 15 yrs. we finally started our life under same shelter in sept 2010, since then we have no physical relations to date as she said i need some time i did understand that but thereafter she starts saying things like you are different to me, you dont have any anything i see in my ideal husband and bla bla.
i have never abused her either physically or emotionally & she has always treated me as a piece of s**t, we have never gone out together from last 2 yrs and has been sleeping in differenent rooms like 2 unknown persons, we hardly talk as according to her she is more practical and i am stupid. Currently neither she nor her family has any love or respect left for me. they don't anymore like anything in me. I have been abandoned from her life.
Beacuse i have blindly trusted her i never felt there will be any chance of extramarital affair.
Recently, i started noticing her activities and decided to find the truth behind why she dont like me anymore.
I never noticed before that she does not allow me to touch her mobile, laptop or any other personal thing that might be suspicious. I somehow managed to get into her laptop and found her photos with another guy (100% recent) in some hotel or resort. Photographs itself says there is more than friendship between them, also found red roses, love letters etc.
Her bank account says some some irregular cash payments are regularly coming in, her payslips says a lot lesser amount what she claims to earn from work, its a real concern for me.
she has never introduced me to her friends and hardly anybody comes home but she do goes out on regular basis to see her friends. i m suffering now because i blindly trusted her and she misused me.
There are certian other things which concludes that i have been framed as she was having affiar with another guy before our marriage, she somehow managed me to get work in the same city and only encounterd few faces from her office.
Now, i am really tired & frustated i cannot hold this relationship anymore as i have given my everything for this marriage. How do i proceed for divorce as i am sure she wont leave me easily. what evidences i need for a case of adultry OR is there any other way like hiring a private detective to get the job done with evidences. Can their evidences be produced in a court of law to make a case stronger.
Plz guide
