Dear LCI members,
I need suggestions with my current situation, let me brief my position.
We got married almost 14 yrs ago and got two kids, both are above 5 yrs old. From the last 4yrs we are apart because of our issues, kids are with her and she didn't shared them with me up untill now.
She filed for guardianship of the kids and I filed RCR, two cases are combined and coming close to hearing. I am always open to reconcile and to get together but I always got negative from her side. I never wished to divirce or loose my children.
Recently we are communicating, she too don't want to divorce, but again she don't want to get together. She wants to share the kids down the road, I am very happy for that.
It is difficult for us to attend the case, since both of us are living abroad, for that matter both of us and our kids are not Indian citizens. We are from india, got married in india. We can only be India at max 4 weeks. I am thinking of leaving my current job and stay in India until these cases end, because I didn't wish to loose neither my rights on the kids nor my rights. I know I don't get anything even If I win both the cases, they only favor me some safety.
Her aim is to get full guardianship of the kids and some more money, she already had enough share of what we earned together. My aim is to not to loose my rights on the kids, money is not my higher priority.
She wants me to with draw on the guardianship. I am proposing I can withdraw from my side, if she withdraws from her side. Can we be able to that? When the cases are combined. I initially planned to apply for visitation rights, it is very difficult for my kids if she didn't prepare to share them. I don't to force her either on this.
Please suggest what should I do? We don't want MCD either. I know it is very tough and sensitive. I will continue to convince her to get together, but it doesn't seem like she will agree.
Both of our interest is kids only, but she is not ready to join me and needs time to share kids.
I trust her a lot, but it doesn't seem like she trust me for so many reasons.
Your help will be greatly appriciated.
Thanks in advance,
Needhelp.
