Hi,
It’s been nearly two months for my marriage now. Marriage is ought to be an auspicious day and surely the most important day of one’s life-time. However, my wedding day turned out to be a disaster for me. The marriage was at girl's side. From admin work to offering respect to guests, the girl's family lacked in every aspect. No respect received by even my family and me! That has caused me mental trauma (since the most important day of my life is ruined) and I have neither emotional feelings nor any attachments towards the girl (so called, now, my wife). I have not been speaking with her and not do I have ever had intimate moments with her. Although, however, I did attempt once to get close to her intimately, I failed as the moments of my wedding day kept haunting me. My family and everyone around me think I am punishing the girl, but no one is ready to see that damage that is caused to me already. I am helpless! They are now threatening me that the girl's family might pull you to police station and / or to course in the name of Dowry and Harassment (we have NOT taken a penny from them or asked dowry at all). However, as basic formalities, we exchanged NOT more than 15,000/- for clothing purchase (to and fro). I am being forced to speak with the girl under duress (unreasonable but may turn out to be threats). My family, the girl, the girls family and myself, we all are under huge mental stress and discomfort at this moment. If you ask me, I am not willing to speak about this to the girl or to her family as the damage have already happened to me and I am not willing to compromise and live life like happened at all. As per Hindu marriage act, I know I am not eligible for a divorce as yet. But at the same time, I am not sure how to deal with the hypothetical threat that is being posed to me. Kindly advice. Thanks in advance. Raj (I am a resident of Bangalore, Karnataka)