Remarriage after contested divorce

I was married in 2008. My wife desrted me after one year of my marriage. I filed RCR in 2013 but she did not appeared in court and I finally received an ex parte decree for RCR. But after one week of RCR order I filed divorce on ground of desertion. My wife did not appeared in court for initially few months even in divorce case too. But after publication in news paper upon court order to appear her, she appeared and requested court to dismiss my devorce case because devorce case on desertion can only be filied after one year of RCR decree. But the family court judge did not cancel my devorce case. The devorce case continued and the case was desposed by family court last week. Court ordered contested allowed. I am Still waiting for copy of final order. During the devorce processing she refused to come with me and judge had mentioned that in his order. But the lady belong to a big family her brother is a judge and due to her brother 's influence family court put huge maintaince 40 Lack one time alimony. Which I can not pay and I am willing to appeal in high court to reduce alimony. Can I remmary now before appealing in high court. Please advise what best option I have.