Good day All,
I am seeking an advice about separation ( if something like this exists ) and finally divorce. I have been married for more than 8 years and now tolerating this relationship for more than 6 years.
Almost everyday quarrels and fights erupt and this does not seem to be going anywhere. I was bearing all this but then I suspected that my wife was talking to someone here and there and hiding things a lot. I did make a setup and caught chat and facebook posts. This was a complete shock to me and broke me down to my core. Anyway, after a lot of drama, she apologized and more or less I had to forget about this. But everyday fights appeared again and after some time not only her rude and frustrated behavior appeared but she started the affair again but this time she has been quite careful. I am sure you have heard a lot of these similar stories and mine would be also very similar. So really do not want to go into further details.
Now I am at a stage where life is pretty tense for me and I stay frustrated every day. My day to day job is getting severely affected now.
After giving good enough time and consideration to it I have decided that I would like to take a divorce and start the life again as currently, I am losing the motivation to live and do anything. I can not even begin to imagine the face of her and afraid that my mental breakdown could occur anytime.
She has been now living outside in different state for past 6-7 months in PG and God knows where. She has not even given me the address.
I am totally frustrated and passing my days in pain here. Upon asking for a divorce she does not give the clear answer and keeps telling that she will tell in a month and so on. I am pretty sure she is after monetary compensation and this idea pisses me a lot knowing how she cheated, lied and misbehaved to me and still thinks of getting money. I do not want even imagine what she might be doing outside. So I need a careful advice here or over the phone for which I am willing to pay as well.
Now I had a long goal of settling down outside via immigration or through a company and this process is going on now. Since my wife is holding her passport and not willing to give it to me nor I want to take her with me. So I want to know the following.
1. Is there anything I can do, maybe some sort of legal separation or court order so that even if she does not give me her passport then I could still complete visa formalities. I do not want to live with her or take her anyway but since I am married and registered under Hindu Marriage law so I am bound to declare everything to visa authorities which I want to do honestly. So I am wondering if she not willing to cooperate in this then what my solutions are to carry on even without her. Filing for divorce will be time-consuming and this may come in my career's path.
2. She is living outside for 6-7 months, earning around 30K. We have no kids and I do have logs of chats and screenshots of her affair. I wanted to know should I go for a contested divorce or still try to seek a mutual?
3. Finally, any other advice that you could think of and I would really appreciate your help.
I need help as soon as possible at least with this immigration. Divorce can I can file and fight for as long as it is going to take.
Note: I am willing to pay for the advice as well. I just need an honest and reliable advice.
More info: It was a love marriage in temple with certificate, registered a year ago under hindu marraige act. Never lived with parents after mrriage as my family simply could not handle this. My father had, already like 6 years ago declared in Newspaper that I am not his son or bear no relationship anymore ( something like that ).
Kindly assist.
Regards
