Hi All,
I have been married according hindu rituals in 2007, i am the eldest son of my parents, and mine is of arranged marriage, at the
time of the engagement i am in Belgium.
The problems started from 9 month of the marriage, she asked me to send her to her parent's place for festival
we came to conclusion that first 15 days she will be in her parent's house and then she will visit my parent's house on festival holidays
she too accepted this and gone to her parent's place, from there she called up me and said she is not willing to go to my parent's place
and scolded my parent's at that time i clearly heard my FIL prompting her on the phone. I kept silent after 20 days she returned with her father.
When i asked him why he did that like that he replied, she is my daughter i will take every decision, who you are to ask my daughter to visit your parents.
Then i replied him is i have married your daughter or is i am in living relationship with your daughter, if you are going to involve like this in further
i am not going to tolerate. Then he said Sorry and left from my place.
In Sep 2009 , we came to know that she is concieved and we both are leadign a happy life till then, for an official work i went to US
in Dec 2009, she gone to her parent's place where her sister came for holidays. Till the date i gone to US she is in perfect health state
and i have given some money to her along with my Debit card to keep up.
I returned on March 1st of 2010 and gone to her parent's place to see my pergnent wife along with gifts i bought for my wife and
to be born my child. She kept all those gifts with her and she came with me to my parent's place, as i got emergency call i left to US on the 3rd of visitng
my parents. Her father came to my parent's place and took her to his place for delivery.
On March 25th 2010 i recieved a call from my wife stating that she is critically ill and her blood pressure is 200/140 and Doctor wants her
to admit immediately, then i asked her to give the phone to my FIL, when i asked him about the condition he said the same , and he said
doctor has given some medicine to take it immediately. I asked him whether she took it or not, his reply is NO. When i asked him why his reply is
i don't think that is serious one, let me talk to my friend who is also a doctor. This is happened at 6 PM of Indian Time. When i called up again
at 11:30 PM he said his friend also says it is critical she has to take that medicine. But still he hasn't given any medicine to her.
Then i called up my parent's to visit her immediately and admitt her in hospital, my parents reached their place by the morning and asked her
to admitt in the hospital and myself is on the way to India in next two days. Her Father relucantly said, no need to admit in hospital i know
what to do with my daughter, but he admitted her in the hospital by the evening.
On 31st March Doctors has said segerian is required and its urgent, so they did segerian on that and myself and my wife blessed with Baby Boy
in the 8th month of pregnancy. As he is pre-matured baby he is admitted in NICU,i only paid up all the hospital bills for my
wife and kid.
My FIL took the paid bills from me and said he will keep them for record, so i handed over them to him, he went to my wife by showing the bills
he said he only paid the bills and i am scolding him and asking him money, this one i came to know when i visited my wife and kid
I replied her check the hospital bills they are paid by my credit card, the number is also there on the bills, she is convincing by that
and i left from that place as she is shouting behaving madly , i thought she is in hyper tension and getting aggressive if i leave her alone
for some time she may cool for herself. But it went wrong her father and sister gone to her immediately after i left and poured some
more allegations on me saying that i am a drunkard/smoker and asking them dowry. Till the date she gone for delivery with her father
she knows i don't drink/smoke and i married her without any dowry. My Family has a strict policy of not taking dowry.
When i gone back to visit her they haven't allowed me to see my wife and kid, I tried my level best to get in touch with them,
i sent my brother, father, sister and brother-in-law nothing went fruitfull. In the mean time i gone sick due to this and admitted in hospital,
and i am in serious condition, surgery is requred Doctors said, my father called her and informed the same,even then she hasn't came to visit me
Three months back i heard that she has kept name for my child by taking him to Tirupati from her cousin , then i gone to her paren'ts place
and tried to reach her her father said she is not here i sent her to my eleder daughter place, and we will do whatever we wants to do. And her distant
cousin came into picture and threaten myy father that he is going to kill me if i tries to contact her or my kid.
This is what guys i am facing please suggest me what to do now.
Thanks
