I got married in the month of March 2018 at my native place and girl is also from native place. i stay in metro city.
its been hardly 4-5months now. Since it was arrange marriage i was not comfortable for 1st nght. So i calmly explained this things.. she agreed on this. After marriage i came to hometown and bought a new home on loan for which i paying hefty EMI. And then i brought her and my mom dad to my new place. But now things have changed she is not taking care of my mom she is not making food on time etc. because of wHich my mom is getting health issues. thrice her BP got high in fights. i explained my wife en number of times but she is still the same. because of this even I m not adapting her. its been 4 months and i am not s*xually connected with her because of all this issues at my home. i called on wife parents and complained about her and decided not get divorce, but they say this are normal problems u cannot take such big step just for silly reason and they irregardless warned me and said.. we will file case on you if you do so. i am worried now. if i go and file for divorce will my property on loan & my family farm & dad house will also be taken as in part of settlement & alimony. i m concern if they put a false case against me and my family and claim my property. Also i cant prove on papers that she is harassing my mom. She is qualified and has Nursing certificate but she not working anywhere. please help me out of this. i just feel like i m trapped from all side.
If you keep postponing your "first night" just because you have some trivial domestic issues, it's foolish of you. Problems will always be there. Once you are married, your wife gets priority because she has left her family and is dependent on you. Your indifference towards your wife is not right. Please set your priorities right. Get a separate house/ flat for your parents ( close by to your house).
I feel that you should see a counsellor and not an advocate. Please take some efforts to save your marriage.
