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Sameer Ahuja (ddd)     27 September 2013

Wife not comming from home

I am demanding 10th certificate from my wife for preparing document of her but she is refusing to provide that document. I think at the time of marriage they give us a wrong date of birth of her. And now she is not coming from home and her family members also not supporting me every time they told will send with 10th certificate. Please suggest what can I do???. Should I file RCR ???????



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NRI Legal Consulting (Consultant)     27 September 2013

Dear Sir,

You should talk to your wife directly,  why is she not coming in your home? If she will not come then you can file RCR. For more query contact us query@nrilegalconsulting.com

Mango (Consultant)     27 September 2013

Dear Sameer Ahuja - 


1. First please decide what's more important for you in this situation - 

 

  • a. 10th class certificate OR
  • b. Your actual wife.

 

2. If you decide to keep her 10th class certificate then file RCR based on the fact that you needed her 10th class certificate and want to bring your certified wife at home. Response to this RCR would be pretty much straight forward, you would get 10th class certificate along with 498a/DV case...!


3. If you decide to keep her wife then call her up and ask her to come back without any certificate. Explain her the situation that you were little crazy to understand that a person who is better-half of yours, lives with you irrespective of money, education and age! When you'll grow old, you would be needing medicine... So, it's useless to say that a woman, who could give you medicine is fair enough to be your honest wife...!

 

4. Life expectancy rate for Indian men has been brought down to 64 but Indian woman life is still remained at 67. Women on average lives longer than men in all cases. So, stop doing this circus at home. If she is 5 years older than you then also she is not going to die before you! Stop worrying, start living happily...!

 

Mango

ashoksrivastava (scientist)     27 September 2013

@ author how old is your marriage?

regards ASHOK

Sameer Ahuja (ddd)     28 September 2013

Dear mango I know that wife is more important than certificate but at same time I need clearence for her dob if there is any discrebency will prepare doc accordingly so that we didn't get any problem in future and there is no precaution for 498 ???? @ ashok 1 year

rajiv_lodha (zz)     28 September 2013

If that the only issue n ur matrimonial life is ok.............talk 2 her directly! do not go 4 any legal remedy. give her the necessary form & tell her to attch 10th certificate wid it & she herself may post it to XX address. All concealed ...........for better


(Guest)

Doccument for what?????? as you have stated you need 10th certificate.

Come clear with clear query......


Now,as per your above query,


1. You need amicable talk with her concern's and your concern's.


2. Match those concern's where they are lacking?


3. If the sort out concern's are beyond your recuperation then move out......


4. If you can amend those concern's then try to save your marriage rather than moving around court's.


5. If nothing is coming as of your favour then leave it for some time as it is,just see what is her say after such space and time.


6. For every relationship trust,love,respect,time and space are needed work on those issues if still you are suffocating by her then better go for divorce.

Sameer Ahuja (ddd)     30 September 2013

I tried to contact her and ask her to comeback but now her father said bring 4 people and then will send our daughter


(Guest)

Once married, what will you do with DOB???


It hardly matters, even if they have cheated you telling wrong age, then too, if you want a way out of this marriage, its not that simple.



rajiv_lodha (zz)     30 September 2013

Take 4 ppl, meet that FIL in some neutral place, see what he talks. If sensible demand, fulfil it & bring back ur wife, hence happiness!

Mango (Consultant)     01 October 2013

Dear Sameer Ahuja -


Take this as word of wisdom or word of a divorcee. Out of my experience, I can say that top reason for divorce in India is compatibility & understanding issue between couples created by either mother-in-law or father-in-law. Nowhere, couple can stay happy...


Talk to your father-in-law/mother-in-law politely, once and for all...! This should be your first and last time when you are talking to them. Bring your wife back and close this chapter. Marriages happen between two families to supply their ego and supremacy officially on-paper. Similarly, when divorce happens, it happens "only" between two people by lowering down their own ego and supremacy...

 

Save your marriage by running-away from such problems... You really don't have to counter these problems and spend rest of your life as alien... These are the problems which come as a gift in every relationship....

 

In my personal case same thing happened followed by legal case... So, remain calm during the conversation… Your father-in-law would try to bring you down; you necessarily don't have to bring the entire house down! It's your marriage and it's your family which you have to look after. So, keep your mind straight during the conversation. 


Thanks for reading...


Mango


Sameer Ahuja (ddd)     04 October 2013

I tried to contact my wife but her parents didn't allow to contact . Now my wife done complaint in Women cell under dowry act and domastice villonce act, I more thing i want to disclosed that i forget to disclosed that my wife was pregnent and we have to abourt baby due to bleeding in 6 month, Now she also complaint that I abourt my baby


(Guest)

Instead of all this, 4 pegs rum and one baseball bat would have done the magic.


See without doing anything now you will face dowry case n what not.


I really dont think any men are alive these days.


Chaar lagate peg, aur bat leke ek ek ko bajate aur biwi ko leke waapis ghar aake khud biwi ke haath se ek complaint uske maa baap per dete toh accha hota ki unhone tumko peetene aaye aur khud tumhari  biwi ne un dono ki dhulai ki.

Mango (Consultant)     04 October 2013

Dear Sameer Ahuja -


Do NOT think to act violently in any place or on any event against your wife/in-law; it will have a reverse impact on your legal case. Dowry Act and Domestic Violence Act has become a norm of Indian marriages so don't discourage yourself for being a victim of the same. Your first response to your legal case should be an eye opener for opposite party! Consult to a good lawyer and start preparing your first response on both the cases.


Make sure to attend all CAW dates and request Investigating Officer to provide the evidence on which ground this complaint has been registered. Investigating officer would ask you to write down your statements on A4 sheets. These statements are important piece of evidences as well. Make sure to write at least four pages long statement and mention how cruel your wife were at matrimonial home and your mother-in-law torture 'in-and-out on CAW cell'. Investigating Officer should not be collecting any evidences from you since you are accused in this case.


Do put a statement on paper that your wife had killed your unborn son/daughter since she wants to prepare for her next marriage. The more you will press hard on their side, the more they will start running away. 


In every statement, make sure to write down that you've requested Investigating Officer to provide the proof on which this complaint has been registered. Asking the same question again and again would put down the pressure on Investigating Officer and thus your wife would start suffocating in her own trap. 


Once you have the list of dowry articles along with evidences then file an Tax Evasion Petition on the same.

 

It's a high time for you to hire a lawyer and fight your case in its entirety.


Mango

Sameer Ahuja (ddd)     04 October 2013

thanks mango I very much like your suggestion and i think this is very helpfull , Can u please tell me good advocate who can handle this cases in Delhi, I have a date in NCW on 8/10/2013


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