Divorce
Kamranmulla
(Querist) 18 August 2018
This query is : Resolved
I got married on June 30, 2018 it was arrange marriage; She is the cousin of my sister-in-law.
Summary:
The engagement happened in the month of November 2017 wherein sister-in-law exchanged numbers; my work location was Saudi hence we started talking and chatting on what�s app during all the conversation she confirm me her future plans and how she will stay after marriage she had promised me she will be understanding partner after marriage and used to send me videos and photos of her house hold work and cooking habits. Her family and She was assured me that she knows all house hold work and a good cook, and wish to be a good house wife.
In the discussion of engagement we learnt that girl is pursing MBA, me and my family declared and confirm marriage only after her studies are completed. Through the mutual discussion with both families it was decided to keep marriage in December 2018. During my interview of her parent and relative its was informed to them that due to present situation of Saudi groom (I) will leaving the Job and will settle in India.
All of a sudden her parents started showing so much of urgency in keeping marriage early try to dominate us. We tried to explain them that it is too early and we require time to prepare, even we request and scheduled a meeting at their location. In the meeting we again tried to convince them that let girl complete her study and till us also get the time to prepare. We also requested her family that girl finish her exams and give her some time of own to understand responsibilities as marriage is bigger step in life. Her parents then came up saying exams will be finish in may itself and they want to keep marriage after Ramadan to which we again clarified will her exams be finish they said yes and everything will be completed .They forced us to keep marriage on June 30th 2018 since they were too pushy we agreed I applied for leaves which were rejected so for marriage I resigned and came back to our country in May .The girl family demanded us to be present from 26 June since they want perform some rituals we agreed booked tickets and also return tickets sent both to them which included brides ticket while returning they acknowledged it as well .
We reached there on 27th June evening the bride�s mother came to us and said we will not be able to send the bride after nikah as her last vivah is balance and scheduled for 4th July we were shocked told them we had specified while agreeing to date of marriage her exams are finished to which they said yes now how all of sudden this vivah came in to the picture and if it was balance what was the need of hurrying so much for marriage it could have been scheduled after Vivah as well as far as leaving bride and going is concerned we cannot allow this as after nikah it should be on her husband�s concern whether or not she should be staying here and as far as exams go we will see what we could do and when you guys knew the Vivah is balance why kept mum even after looking at the return tickets we had already shared with you guys well in advance a week back why were we not informed why this was kept complete secret and brought like a shock to us .Her mom after listening to this left from there .
One more shock is that they have expressed that after Nikah bride and me will stay in hotel and were dropped in a hotel without our consent we allowed as they were too pushy and adamant .we were dropped there in night at 3.30AM and the brides brothers came in the morning to pick her .they took the bride to her parents� house not even bothering to ask me or my parents and by keeping me waiting in the cab outside their house .I was neither invited nor given glass of water I was later on dropped on a road nearby the hotel wherein my family self-arranged for their stay .Then after reception of our side my wife insisted she wants to be dropped to her parents� house for getting ready for mumbai to which I agreed and dropped her to parents house .Our leaving time was informed her I called up 2 hours prior to leaving time and requested her join . A shocking answered received from her, she disagreed to join us for matrimonial and informed is that she would stay until her exams are over here only, even though I promised her that it�s my responsibility to do arrangement for her exam and insisted as its not good to stay after marriage like this to which she kept on repeating the same statement in hindi it goes like this �main nahi Aaogi Nahi aaongi main nahi Aaongi nahi Aaongi �after which myself and mom went to girls parent house to convince them to send the bride along her parents refused to send her stating her study will be affected and they don�t want to send her so with most disappointment me and mother expressed our feelings�It is so disheartening the girl after marriage is not ready to accompany groom first day of marriage at our house � and left from there .after Coming back to mumbai we kept on waiting neither the girl nor her parents called or messaged about her exams they kept mum 10 days passed no info and after one fine evening all of a sudden to our surprise we were in receipt of ticket send by her and said that she is coming to mumbai. We were surprised by this type of act however still welcomed her and picked her from the airport .The girl from day one started acting over smart her way of living completely came as contrast from what she portrayed she was not able to perform any obligation of wife and it looked from her she wasn�t ready for marriage and parents forced her into it .If I ask for a cup of tea she used to fight and angrily come to hit me .I had performed my obligation of providing a shelter comfort and food. She was only had interest in going out and staying at home at all it was not even two days of her staying in home .She never used to care of listen of anyone at home in my absence she used to go down in buildings garden alone and talk to someone for hours even she didn�t give her ears on my objection .after week again her parents asked her to come stating the date of exams have been released as per her request I booked flight tickets from my expense and dropped her to airport as I was not getting leaves from work .after she left from house only once she called and messaged and after she stopped messaging or calling her parents were least bothered from the start only .after week a messaged her asking her how she is and how were the exams instead of replying to that she started fighting and arguing after this the call from her stopped and her mother called up my mom stating whats the issue my mom said very politely when there no issue or problem why you guys insisting there is one we don�t have any problems .after this for week no call no message and suddenly one day her mother called 10 times and mentioned in a message I was out with some work so couldn�t answer as I had forgotten the phone at home .I replied politely her mother read the message but didn�t reply for a week she again called on working day Monday while I was driving and called only twice and she was mentioning about problem and was asking us to come to Hyderabad all the way from mumbai to their house I replied politely y couldn�t pickup call and why they didn�t try calling on Saturday or Sunday I also meniotned we never called and told them we have a problem they are the only one finding issues so if they have issues they should only come and sit unnecessarily keeping bride at their house they are making issues then for a week again her mother didn�t respond and then directly she messaged asking y we were not answering call to which I replied she was blaming her daughter has completed all the obligations to which I replied with correction I replied and ever since there no response from them I am mentally getting harassed by this and wanna end this marriage what should I do
P. Venu
(Expert) 19 August 2018
Why don't you post simple facts, confining to material facts and leaving out the trivial issues?
