What is adultery
ishan
(Querist) 11 September 2015
This query is : Resolved
Hello,
I met a Girl On facebook on 2014. We start talking and start liking and loving. Im from other state and she is from other state.
But in 2015, she Got married but we continue to talk ever after her marrige. But I rarely talk to her (2 or 3 times) on phone... Usually we talk over facebook and watsapp but we dint talk ver much after her marrige.
We never talk vulgur. Even I dint say her that I luv her after her marrige but before her marrige I told her that I love her and she also...
I Never Met this girl. we only talk on FB or watsapp.
But we continue to talk... But she told her husband that She liked me before Her marrige. And Her Husband started to tell her to stop taking to me..
But I treat this grl as a best frnd. But usully I says to her sum friendly stuff like ""Im missing her, lets cook together, I like You etc,""" .. and sum other stuff like this.
Is This case comes Under adultery??
Should I stop talking to Girl??
Anirudh
(Expert) 11 September 2015
It does not come under adultery.
But, once you have come to know that the girl has happily married to someone else, you should behave properly. How can you say to her "i am missing you, lets cook together" etc.
I am not saying one should not be friends with a married lady, whom you had known from prior to her marriage. But, a Lakshman Rekha should be drawn as to how far is thus far. In fact, especially when you have come to know that her husband has asked her to stop talking to you, you should take the hint and try to avoid her to the maximum extent. There are ways in which one can avoid - that need not be taught. Rest is left to you.
ishan
(Querist) 11 September 2015
Dear Anirudh,
Thank You for Your Kind Reply..
Is it Bad to miss sum1 with whom u had a close Bond before her marrige?
We had A great Bonding...since before her marrige...
And its jus a flow of conversation b/w two ppl with a gud Bond.
We never talked sumthing Vulgur or sumthing which can offend anyone..
But there is no place of unnecessary Doubts.
Doubts has No treatment and Her husband facing the same.....
Not only Her But every Woman has a right to get their personal space within limitations.... even ater their marrige.
"In limitation"
Anirudh
(Expert) 11 September 2015
If you are a true friend of the girl, then you should maintain a distance. It is quite ok for you to say that there is no treatment for doubt. But, if you put yourself in the shoes of her husband you will understand. In any case, when you have come to know that her husband has doubts, why do you want to add fuel to the fire?
As already replied by me, rest is left to you.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 11 September 2015
Please do not use SMS language.
Agree with the advise of expert Anirudh.
ishan
(Querist) 11 September 2015
Ofcouse Im maintaining a distance thats y we talk rare and maintain limitations.
But I can understand a nice intension behind ur advive... I appriciate It..
But as I said Women is not a private property of her Husband. SHe can do watever she want Which is legally right.
Thats y in India we have a very poor condition Of Female. Specially In Rural Areas.
They Treated as a property...
For the name of "peace in marrige life" No one can take her rights to do things wat she like and to whom she want to talk..
But yeas Again "Legally and In Limitations"
ADV-JEEVAN PATIL, MUMBAI
(Expert) 11 September 2015
It is advisable not to interfere in matrimonial affairs. If if is vice-a-versa, what would u yr feelings as husband? Please stop exchanging msga
ADV-JEEVAN PATIL, MUMBAI
(Expert) 11 September 2015
It is advisable not to interfere in matrimonial affairs. If itis vice-a-versa, what would u yr feelings as husband? Please stop exchanging msgs
