Should we tell truth to innocent girls wanting to marry sister's ex-husband?
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Anonymous
(Querist) 11 January 2012
This query is : Resolved
My sister got mutual divorce recently from her husband who is an NRI.Divorce happened as there was extreme cruelty,and desertion by him.The whole family was fraudulent type,and habitual of using bad language at home,even for the aged father,husband's grandmother and towards others.Their own relatives have accused them of being bad tempered and manipulative kind.
Earlier cases were filed but they were quashed as it was affecting our parents' health,and sister's health too.
Now off late we are getting calls from various families of those girls who are having arranged marriage negotiations with her ex.
They want to meet us to know her husband's and in-laws' nature in advance.We managed to tell one family their true natures.So they decided not to pursue with them.
Now other families are wanting to meet us to know the truth.Some of them also came to know of the cases filed against them which were only genuine and want our cooperation in showing them her case file,so that they can know whether my ex-brother-in-law is fit to become a son-in-law of their family.
They are pleading us to meet them and tell all the truths,or else that will spoil their daughters' lives if they are married to the wrong man.
Please advise should we tell them honestly of their real character of cheating,fraud and physical violence?
On one hand we don't want another innocent girl's life spoiled by a fraud,abusive family.They are requesting us to meet them.Our conscience tells us to help innocent people who may be unaware of their fraudulent,harssing traits.We don't want to refuse helping them.
On the other hand we are perplexed,if her ex-family comes to know we are helping these girls who are seeking our help, can they blame us for defamation?
Please advise the correct action,so that innocent girls are saved,and we are not put to risk.
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 11 January 2012
Honestly is always the best Policy. Without any hesitation you should tell the truth and leave them to decide.
Now for telling the truth, you should not bother about what the concerned persons think about you.
Raj Kumar Makkad
(Expert) 11 January 2012
Telling truth and self experience is not a defamation. There is no harm if you bring true facts in the knowledge of the person desiring to know truth about ex. of your sister. This is also according to your conscience. This is also your moral duty. You are not making advertisements in the news papers but if someone asks from you individually, you are teling him truth and your experience. This may be wrong for others. Your opinion may not be treated as final by some of the families so without any fear of law, you should help them to reach to a right conclusion if they take your help.
No law can stop you doing such help.
ajay sethi
(Expert) 11 January 2012
truth is best defence in case of defamation .
you must state the true facts . do not ruin any other girls life . do you want other gilrs to undergo the torture your sister under went .
mahendrakumar
(Expert) 12 January 2012
nothing to worry about defamation.
anyhow you are not giving any affidavit or written statements regarding the character etc.
in the process,remember not to exagerate things.
you should tell them,that it is your experience and before taking final decision,let them collect information from other sources too.
V R SHROFF
(Expert) 12 January 2012
LEGAL ACT NEED NOT BE WORRIED , AND CAN GO AHEAD
Deepak Nair
(Expert) 12 January 2012
Go ahead. You are doing the right thing.
prabhakar singh
(Expert) 12 January 2012
There is no kind of legal risk if you keep them inform about the truth.
Shonee Kapoor
(Expert) 13 January 2012
Tell the truth, never hurted anyone.
Regards,
Shonee Kapoor
harassed.by.498a@gmail.com
