How to divorce
Narsing Sahu
(Querist) 15 July 2014
This query is : Resolved
am girl & just married in march 2014 but am not interested to my husband & i want to divorce him and stay with my lover? tell me what to do can i leave him directly or i have to file divorce?
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 15 July 2014
sTAYING SEPARATELY DOE SNOT REQUIRE DIVORCE. However if you want dissolution of marriage then you have to file suit for divorce.
Meet an advocate.
Laxmi Kant Joshi
(Expert) 15 July 2014
You have to take divorce first only then you can re marry with your lover otherwise you both will come under trouble.
malipeddi jaggarao
(Expert) 15 July 2014
This is the third post in series.
First of all, are you a major or minor?
If you are a major why did you consent for the marriage?
You can go away - marry or elope with your lover and enjoy your lust.
What about the poor boy who married you believing the representations of your parents? Unless he got legal divorce, he can not remarry. If he goes for divorce, somebody will guide you to fight for maintenance. He will have to wait for a long. Though he gets divorce, he is branded as second marriage boy and he will not find a suitable girl for him. He must have spend amount for the marriage ceremony. Who will compensate him?
If you can not reconcile, you could have as well told him before hand that you have a love affair and you are not interested in him Ignoring the his difficulties you might have simply yielded to the pressures of your parents and consented for the marriage dragging the boy into problems without his fault.
The best way at this stage is - tell him that you are not interested in him and you want live with your lover. File a petition for divroce with mutual consent - so that the divroce will be granted faster. If you are employed girl, compensate the loss incurred by that fellow for the marriage. Otherwise ask your parents or your lover to do so.
You can play with your own life. Please do not try to play with the life of other innocent people. You are so crazy to go away with your lover though not 6 months after marriage. Why can not be that crazy while giving your consent for that marriage? Do you think life is a game? If you think so, play for yourself but do not play with others.
To what extent your lover boy will accept you as wife. Do not foresee any future trouble with that boy? If you divorce your husband, you will carry with the brand of divorcee. If you elope with your lover without divorce, your husband may file a case of bigomy.
Be careful in taking decisions looking into the problems you may face and the poor boy may face who married you in good faith.
Nadeem Qureshi
(Expert) 15 July 2014
Dear Querist
this is not a ground to file a divorce case against him if you are not ready for this marriage then why did you not raised your voice at the time of marriage. Now you want divorce from him and willing to live with your lover. What's about your husband life.
Think again for save the marriage.
Sankaranarayanan
(Expert) 15 July 2014
Hope you are young and think twice before take such decision. What you found fault on him.
RAJU O.F.,
(Expert) 15 July 2014
Don't consider to change your husband just as you change your dress or chappel. Do you expect the experts satisfy your wishes. Make use of this forum for genuine legal problems.
V R SHROFF
(Expert) 15 July 2014
reside separate, wait for 12 months to file MCD, wait 6 months for II nd sessions, get divorce. So at least 18 months to marry someone else..
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 15 July 2014
Well advised by the expert malipeddi jaggarao sir. Agree to it.
malipeddi jaggarao
(Expert) 15 July 2014
Yes, I missed to tell you that it will take minimum of 18 months even if you file application for divorce with mutual consent.
Another pre-condition is to live separately for one year. In the meanwhile if you start living with your ex-lover, your husband may file bigamy case against you.
However, you did not come with answers:
1) What is your age?
2) What is the age of your lover?
3) Why did you allow this marriage instead of resisting it so that you could marry your lover?
4) What is the relationship between you and your lover?
5) Are you in regular touch with your lover even after the marriage?
6) Whether your marriage is consumated?
7) Who is responsible for your marriage?
8) whether either of you (you and your lover) have sufficient income to run the home after divorce and remarriage?
9) Are you confident that your lover will marry you and continue his love even after you divorce your present husband that too after say about 2 years?
10) Whether your present husband does know this affair? If so what is his reaction?
Issue is not so small to give you advice instantly.
Dr J C Vashista
(Expert) 15 July 2014
I fully agree and appreciate the expert advise/opinion of Sh. Malipeddi Jaggaro.
Raj Kumar Makkad
(Expert) 16 July 2014
Well advised by experts hence no more to add.
T. Kalaiselvan, Advocate
(Expert) 16 July 2014
This is a third query in a third thread repeating the same query in a different form, if you so curious about committing offence, go ahead, who is going to stop you except the law enforcing authority.
