Family issues regarding love marriage
Aditisingh
(Querist) 11 September 2015
This query is : Resolved
hello sir ..i am aditi singh and going to complete 18 years this 26th of september..i wanted to ask that is love marriage a crime? .. i am committed with a boy of age 22 years..but my dad is totally against this relationship because of caste problems..fews days ago he came to know about our realtionship and beat me like hell ..worst than a dog..and said that if this realtionship happens he will kill both the families including me and my boy..what should i do?
Aditisingh
(Querist) 11 September 2015
please reply to this issue .. please
Guest
(Expert) 11 September 2015
What are you Doing.Should be a Student.First Concentrate on Your Studies and Let the Boy also Settle Well.Then after 2 or 3 years If your Love is True and Strong You could Decide.No Parent will accept child's affairs happily that too while you are So Young.
P. Venu
(Expert) 11 September 2015
Legally, you are entitled to marry anyone of choice, once you have completed 18 years.
However, law forms only a road-map for life. How you live and face the obstacles of life and face the issues is matter of choice. And emotions and the hard facts of life are very much relevant in this choice.
Almost every Indian father would be disappointed if the children ventures into inter-caste relations, esp. at a tender age. Yes, I do concede that your father overreacted, but try to understand his predicament.
In our country, marriage is not just the bonding of two persons, but two families. Your relationship is just at the beginning. Just keep a low profile; abide by the time. Presently concentrate in studies. Have a settled life. And once you are ready for marriage, make the choice in your best judgment. But as far as possible, avoid disappointing your parents.
Guest
(Expert) 11 September 2015
Well Advised by Mr.P.Venu the Family Courts are almost like a College Campus because of Such Hasty decisions.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 11 September 2015
Agree with the advise from expert P.Venu.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 11 September 2015
Agreeing with Mr Narasimha, I will add that there is no misery in life of a woman than having unemployed husband that too when the marriage resulted in cut of from family.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 11 September 2015
Agreeing with Mr Venu I will add that under given circumstances there are a few more steps you can take to make your life more miserable.
You can get your father (or other faily members supporting you) jailed for beating you like US/Canadian kids. This way you can ensure that there is no back up for you on future failure of marriage (which mostly happens in such case when illusion of love ends).
Legally you can get married on completion of 18 years of age. No doubt at this age law gives power to decide marriage proposal (though wisdom is yet to come). After next 15 days legally none can stop you from spoiling your life.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 11 September 2015
Further in cinemas Hero and Heroin do commit such marriages (right from the date of first talkie “achoot kanya” when Ashok Kumar was a teenager hero. But they are paid in lacks by the producers and marriage is intended for the purpose of shooting and after pack up they go and join their real life family.
Aditisingh
(Querist) 12 September 2015
but i am with the guy since childhood....i want to concentrate on studies but i want parents to know that i have someone in life and he is gonna stay .. i am not in a hurry to marry ofcourse i want to study..but if my parents understand that i and the guy cant be apart..i can concentrate more well on studies if they accept this relationship i will more concentrate on my studies afterall i am not the first girl to fall in love with a guy or they are not the first parents to see such kind of relationship..i want them to know that i really love him and he really loves me..
Aditisingh
(Querist) 12 September 2015
i am saying this because i know very very very well that my wont accept this relation in future too...because for him caste is the most important thing..he will forcefully marry me to another guy which i dont want..he is already scaring me and my guys family that he will kill each and every one..he will even not accept this relation if i am settled or not .. it is not about my age it is about my dad..and his point of view towards marriages..which includes caste at very first..otherwise the guy i love he also knows him very well.. after all we are together since childhood..but dont want me to be with him jus because of caste and people around..
Aditisingh
(Querist) 12 September 2015
is caste so much important ?? i am scared that if my dad does this type of behavior i might do somthing wrong..
T. Kalaiselvan, Advocate
(Expert) 19 September 2015
