Fraud marriage
priya
(Querist) 17 October 2012
This query is : Resolved
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i met wid guy in delhi, v made frndzz n fall in love, he told me about him, he is educated n staled means wrking n hav car which used in five star so he is getting 35000 rent n all his family is good, i got married wid him, aftr ma marriage, i came jaipur near his all realtives so i got to knw from them he is not even graduate not wrking since born, selfish n play boy too, his family is cruel, they r demanded n wants dowry, dey don have class , standard n all, but i adjust everything, by ma love i changed him, now he is wrking earning n trying to be responsible,, but his parents wants get back dare son, they says- leave ur wife n come back to us, don do job n all just sit at home i will give u money to spend, lyk before they want him, m afraid may b he can go back in old lyf bullshitt, dare m no where.....
wht should i do
how can safe ma husband from his parents.....
ajay sethi
(Expert) 17 October 2012
dont stop your husband from visiting his parents . let him go and stay with them if he wants. if he loves you he will come back after some time .
priya
(Querist) 17 October 2012
ohh he is going to meet them frequently. in week 3 nyts n 2 days he usd to b dare, n m alone here in new city in home :( how can i see dat ?
n one more prob -- his parents said olwys to him
just bring ur begs n come back, leave her
ajay sethi
(Expert) 17 October 2012
over possessiveness kills any relation ship . give him freedom he will come back to you . the more posssessive you are the more he will try to keep a distance . he is adult can amke up his own mind .
Guest
(Expert) 17 October 2012
Dear Priya,
First of all, I would like to pose a question to you, have you made SMS to the experts on your mobile or posted a question at the site of LCI, as you have used the SMS language making your question to be rubbish?
Now about your problem, when he has not yet gone to his parents, why you become worried in advance?
Further, even if on thie desire, he returns back to his parents, do you think his parents would support their non-earning son till the whole of his life when he would be totally useless for them?
If he goes to meet his parents 2-3 times a week, do you feel that after his marriage he had lost his right to keep any relation with his parents or even to meet them?
priya
(Querist) 17 October 2012
i am so sorry for my sms language, just because of habit i hove done this.
yes they are said to me we can afford all expenses of my son but we can't see that my son would b work in a company for 9 hours, hectic schedule , travelling n all, they called him again n again n saying JUST LEAVE THIS JOB N COME BACK TO HOME NO NEED TO TAKE STRESS N ALL
Guest
(Expert) 17 October 2012
You should be aware that your corrupted language everywhere as a habit can also affect your official career?
Anyway, even if they assure his son to support him till the end of his life, any person with common sense can understand well that his parents life would not be so long to end with the end of his own life.
They may be against his doing some job with some company, they can also make him to do some own profession or business. Why compel him to do job only.
priya
(Querist) 17 October 2012
they gave him 10 lac rupees in 3 years for some course, but he left that course into 3 months and spent all the money in his friends, party, trips, girlfriend n all, but his parents still don't care about that and they said to him front of me we can give u monthly amount for expense's but don't take stress from work n all, stay at home eat food and do whatever,
priya
(Querist) 17 October 2012
i really don't understand what they want ?
why they r doing this just spoiling him. they made him useless, only i know how tough that was to make him responsible,
ajay sethi
(Expert) 17 October 2012
we have advised you . it is your call . visit a marriage counsellor with your husband
priya
(Querist) 17 October 2012
counselor can resolve this issue?
ajay sethi
(Expert) 17 October 2012
yes he will hear both you and your husband . advise you accordingly
R.K Nanda
(Expert) 17 October 2012
no more to add.
