Law that helps to cut relations from parents
Shikha Baliyan
(Querist) 01 September 2015
This query is : Resolved
I am 25 years old girl,a post graduate (M.Tech) and working as an Assistant professor in a reputed engineering college.Now a days i am very depressed because my parents want me to get married. Although i am ready for marriage because i am in a relationship with a guy from last 5 years and loves him too much. He is well established and working in Income tax department and he also wants to marry me. His parents are ready for our marriage but my parents are not getting ready for intercaste marriage.I am trying to convince them from last 18 months but they are stick to their decision and are not getting ready.They even don't allow me to continue with my job and wants me to leave my job and get married .I am really trying very hard to continue my job and therefore i am getting very disturbed. Sometimes i even think to commit suicide. I am very depressed and now i want to cut off all the relations with my parents because they are forcefully trying for me to get married. So i just want to know what i should do to cut off the realations with them and does it will create some problems for me in my professional life? Please provide me a solution as soon as possible because i am passing through the worst phase of my life and really want to come out of it........
SAINATH DEVALLA
(Expert) 01 September 2015
U should not use the words suicide,murders etc here.
If U R really in love with the boy and can't live without him,better marry him as per Special Marriage Act.His parents agreeing to the marriage is a good sign.U need not get separated from UR parents,once U get married they will certainly sever relationship with U.But there could be reconciliation in the future.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 01 September 2015
Your parents are not your enemy, they would be able to search better match for you. You may leave your parents for a person you love, but what about the affection of your parents.
Personally we would advise to accept the proposal of your parents and forget your love. They have sacrificed for you many times, now this is your turn.
However, legally you can proceed to marry your boyfriend through court / otherwise. It may give non recoverable pain to your parents.
Anupam Lahiri
(Expert) 01 September 2015
Dear Shikha,
This is a purely socio-psychological issue. There is case of any legal application. If you are seriously interested to marry the boy, you have ample opportunity to go in for Special Marriage.
SAINATH DEVALLA
(Expert) 01 September 2015
But the injury U cause to UR parents cannot be forgotten in the rest of the life.I am not discouraging love marriage,inter caste or inter community marriages,but we have some family traditions that have to be taken into account.It is only because of our parents that we are here in this beautiful world,going against their conscious is unpardonable.
The advices may seem to be heavy to digest,but we are here not only to give legal advices but also to counsel.
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 01 September 2015
The decision that you take now shall haunt you in future too.
Try by speaking to some counselors,elders of the family and let them run a thorough check on the boy and family of the boy and appraise you parents.
If your last time efforts do not work then you can make a choice.
Choose wisely.
T. Kalaiselvan, Advocate
(Expert) 08 September 2015
No doubt you are economically independent hence you do not have to wait for the permission of your parents to marry a person of your choice and also since his parents have already consented to your marriage with him. If your parents are adamant, you may ask some elderly close relatives from your side to convince your parents to permit you to marry the person of your choice, if all the efforts fail, you may decide to walk out of the house and marry him against the wishes of your parents.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 09 September 2015
your case is less legal rather more socialogical and emoptional.
legally you can marry and inter-caast marriage (if both of same religion) doe snot even require cap of Spl MArriage Act.
