Sister in laws rude behaviour towards her husband's sister
Lalita
(Querist) 16 August 2024
This query is : Resolved
My father has two houses in his name-1st one in New Delhi , which he had inherited from his father. The second one is in Faridabad which he bought himself
We are a Hindu family. I'm a 45 year old divorced woman without children My younger real brother got married to a Christian Indian woman in 2017. They have no children. My sister in law is 10 years younger than me
After the house warming party of my father's new house in Faridabad last year, I have been noticing that my sister in law is possessive and extremely passionate about this new house. She does not show this passion for our current house in New Delhi where we all live
When we all visited this house recently for our weekend stay, she taunted me 3 - 4 times - "Why do I want to to lock the door at night for security, why am I drawing the curtains for sunlight, why am I trying to lock the kitchen door for security at night and whether I will keep the house keys with me after locking these two doors..." She never speaks such words in our current house in New Delhi which is also in my father's name This is why I found her behaviour strange which she showed in our new Faridabad house.
Both my sister in law and I contributed 50% money each for its furnishing like furniture, heater etc. initially she had tried to discourage me from contributing for its furnishing,but when I insisted she took the money from me.However she keeps buying new things for this house on her own. My father has prepared a will this year that after my parents' death, both these houses will be given to my brother and I and we will have equal share in both these houses But because of my sister in laws passion towards my father's new house in Faridabad, I feel somewhat insecure and wonder whether she will even let me live peacefully in this new house after my parents death in case I go there,as she already seems over passionate about this new house What should I do?
I have no support system from friends, or relatives. My parents are too meek and timid to say anything to her because they fear that my brother might get divorced if they say anything to his wife.
I also don't want to be illtreated during my old age by my sister in law My sister in law has created a very good impression in front of all our relatives and neighbours. So nobody can suspect her bad behaviour. In our day to day dealings also although she is sometimes supportive of my mother and helps me out in various ways (sometimes even without my asking ), but on many occasions without any provocation or reason she taunts, ridicules and puts me down or passes sarcastic comments on me. I really don't understand what kind of strange behaviour she has
Whenever my mother told her that after my parents death my brother and sister in law should look after me because I have no husband, family or children she gives very vague replies or passes sarcastic comments. she did not say even when once that they will look after me, which makes me all the more doubtful of her behaviour
What should I do because I feel extremely insecure and I am afraid of getting ill treated during my old age with no support from anyone
I cannot talk to my brother about his wife's behaviour because he is emotionally weak and disturbed owing to his unstable career
T. Kalaiselvan, Advocate
(Expert) 16 August 2024
There's no necessity for you to be so much anxious in this regard that you keep repeating the same question in various sections of this website, you may visit that thread to know more answers
kavksatyanarayana 
(Expert) 16 August 2024
No legal elements are involved in your query. You have an equal share of your ancestral property with your father and brother. For your father's property, he can do it as he wishes. You cannot pressure him to gift it to you. You can amicably and tactfully settle the matter
Lalita
(Querist) 17 August 2024
Thanks sir for your reply
Yes i understand that I have an equal share in my father's property
I never asked him to gift it to me
Both my parents have created a will by their own choice that my brother & I will have equal rights in both these flats
I never asked or forced my father to gift me his Faridabad flat
I am only worried that my sister in law who is quite obsessed with my father's new flat in Faridabad tried to order me around atleast 4 times in a span of 24 hours how I should use the new Faridabad flat.... So this became a cause of concern for me.
When she can act so bossy and bold with me in front of my parents,I can imagine how what kind of life I will have when my parents are no more and I have no other friends, relatives, family members or neighbours to support me because everybody thinks she is very good
P. Venu
(Expert) 18 August 2024
Facts posted suggest that it is you, more than your sister law, who is obsessed with the property. Please note that you and your siblings have no subsisting rights or interests in the parents' property during their lifetime. Rights of the legal heirs are limited to inheritance of the parents' property after their lifetime.
