Solution for my problem
suchitra
(Querist) 12 February 2009
This query is : Resolved
Dear sir,
Am having a different problem, I dont
know whether it is related to any law,
Thinking that i may get a solution for
this problem. sir, 6 months back i got
married and moved to my husband`s house
My father in law usually quarells with
my mother in law and my husband told
this is in practice since 30 years. Both
my mother in law and father in law are
good to me. I noticed that some days my
MIL used to be moody and sad, so i asked
her what is the matter, she told
somethings that made me stunned for
sometime. My FIL has very high sex drive
He is aged 68 years and MIL aged 57.
She is suffering from BP as well as
diabetics, and totally lost interest
in sex. This makes him furious and uses
vulgar slang, that cannot be told here.
As my husband was not aware of this,
shocked to know this, My FIL had
threatend her that if anyone comes to
know about this, i will commit sucide.
My FIL says that it is beyond my
tolerance, i will end myself. Now
please tell me what can be done at this
situation. Please suggest some solution.
PALNITKAR V.V.
(Expert) 12 February 2009
In fact your FIL needs counselling through some psychiatrist.
sanjeev murthy desai
(Expert) 12 February 2009
This is natural problem of your fIL. Your fIL circumstancely needs a psychiatrist.
Try to change his residing town to other town some days.
ARVIND JAIN
(Expert) 12 February 2009
BEWARE OF UR FIL.
M. PIRAVI PERUMAL
(Expert) 12 February 2009
What Mr. Aravind said is true you have to be very careful.
Sushil Kumar Bhatia
(Expert) 12 February 2009
This is a psychological illness be cautious for any worst thing and it is advised to stay seperately far from in laws and arrange male servent for care of the In-laws
smilingadvocate
(Expert) 12 February 2009
suchitra
without his knowledge send him to some satsang programmes and some meditation and other programmes you can try the Art of Living meditation programe, because if you try to take you fil to any psychiatrist do you think he will come just as you said he will get more ferosious and start behaving more worst and the situation willbe more worst, any thing you do to change your fil should be without to his knowledge and involving him shis meditation will make a lot of change in your FIL and see that heis joined in the ART OF LIVING BASIC COURSE and you need not take him to any psychiatrist, becasue see any person will change his attitude if he want to then only you can see the change and in such cases he should be changed without knowing himself he should change it is possible through meditation and satsang.
Kamlesh soni
(Expert) 13 February 2009
if you try to take you fil to any psychiatrist do you think he will come just as you said he will get more ferosious and start behaving more worst and the situation willbe more worst, any thing you do to change your fil should be without to his knowledge and involving him shis meditation will make a lot of change in your FIL and see that heis joined in the ART OF LIVING BASIC COURSE and you need not take him to any psychiatrist, becasue see any person will change his attitude if he want to then only you can see the change and in such cases he should be changed without knowing himself he should change it is possible through meditation and satsang.Yoga is the good solution
Uma parameswaran
(Expert) 13 February 2009
It is not a problem but only a state of mind.There is a great gap between your MIL and FIL.Your FIL is with your MIL and he is not having bad behaviour yet.So certainly family members can change his present behaviour.Give respect to him as a elder person and give him some responsibile work.More coherant and stable relation wants to devolep between your MIL and FIL.In the old age incrimination and accusion is not good.Try to give Changes in his routine work . More affection,caring and mutual under standing are needed to fill the gap.A good family counselor can change his way of life.First you take your MIL to a family counsellor.Through her FIl can change.Consider him as a patient.Make him occupied person with some work.
A. A. JOSE
(Expert) 18 February 2009
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