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Ananda   05 November 2024

Adopted child

Hello Experts,

This is a very tricky situation.

Person A and B are sister and brother.

A is unmarried woman and adopts a child (boy) as  per legal procedure. B is the brother and gives all support needed in this process. The adoption agency checks family background, gets written statements other relatives and oral confirmation from B that he will support the child and be there as needed, as a father figure.

The child gets very attached to B.

Slowly, A starts blocking the child's interaction with B. In spite of all efforts to communicate and interact with the child, A continuously blocks all access to the child and doesnt respond to related messages. The child enjoys being with B, but he has been told all lies to avoid any interactions.

B feels morally responsible to support and be with child as much as possible and as necessary. Everyone realizes that the child is deprived of emotional bonding with B (as maternal uncle), but no one is willing to discuss with A.

For a male child, Father is also very important ,and in this case, B wants to be the father figure (doesnt expect any rights on child, only access to give him good healthy and wholesome environment to grow up)

Please suggest what could be done to ensure the child gets the family support as promised during the process.

Raising a child in isolation or depriving him of the joy of being with his uncles (mama) is not only sad it also affects childs emotional upbringing. 

B wants to restore normalcy amicable without hurting anyones feelings, with the child's upbringing being of utmost importance. A is very stubborn and arrogant, making it almost impossible to convince.

Please share if you have any suggestions, In the interest of the child only.

 



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 2 Replies

T. Kalaiselvan, Advocate (Advocate)     06 November 2024

B cannot claim any rights or the so called restoration of family bonding with the child as a right nor the law can come to his rescue.

 

Ananda   06 November 2024

Thank you sir, the adoption process involves few relatives giving a written statement of support (as a father figure) and also interviews with agency prior to approval.

When someone adopts a child  on that basis (without which  adoption is not possible) and later becomes unreasonable/possessive etc. and raises the child in near isolation, can that not be corrected.

The boy needs a happy , joyful and funfilled atmosphere.

As siblings, B knows A alone can not give a nurturing environment to the child. A due to her mentality - arrogance, short tempered etc can knowingly or unknowingly  suppress the child's natural growth.

Children who grow up in a dominating environment do not develop well and feel suppressed also. The boy is already afraid to speak his mind in front of A.

Those who gave written statements are not interested to do anything. The whole episode looks like selfish adults came together and took a child for their own personal satisfaction. 

In the best interest of the child, if law can give visitation rights that can also be of tremendous help.

 

 


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