I am muslim married 15 yrs ago and have 2 sons 13 yrs and 11 yrs. we returned last year to Chennai for the future of sons. I got job few months back and still a long way to settle back here. The kids are going to school very close to my house. My wife likes a glamour life and more inclined in show offs. I keep objecting to her. This is our life. I am more inclined to my sons and their future. She is busy on phones with her mother and cousins and friends disturbing my sons studies. I get furious with her but she never listens. She started to do things without my knowledge as she knows I will shout at her. 4 months back she invited her old male friend inside the house when I was at work but she never told me. My son told me that some uncle came to our house. Her mother will come when I am not at home but my wife does not tell me. I come to know from others mouth. I got angry and stopped talking to her as I usually do when I get angry with her. Few days later after I left for work and after my sons went to school she took all jewels, her certificates, threw all my clothes from cupboard and locked and left to her parents house 25 kms from our house without informing me. She sent message in my phone she is going as she is not well and told me to receive the children from school. I realized she ran away leaving me and my sons to suffer without food and their FINAL exams which was about to start in one month. I cooked for my sons and took care of their studies and had to leave them alone in the house as I had to go to work daily. My sons called her many time but her parents told them everytime she is sleeping but never allowed them to talk to her. I got angry and told her father that my wife should never come back without my permission. Then I sent a legal letter to be safe in case she may make any false complaints against me demanding explanation for her behaviour and for abandoning the sons and taking all the jewels and certificates. This legal letter upset her father very much and when I went to their house with my sons he was not willing to talk to me and told me to bring my mother. Her brother abused me and insulted me and asked us to get out of the house. I came back with my sons and I decided to teach them a lesson. I went and lodged a complaint in the police and they called them for enquiry. She was shouting in the police station and they told her to sign a paper and solve the matter in court. Later after one month my wife complained in the womens cell and we were summoned for counseling. The police asked the sons but the sons told them they want to live with me. So the police could do nothing and gave counseling. After 3 counsellings I was willing to take her back for the sake of kids but she is not prepared as she wants to work but not give salary. I told her in that case she must arrange a maid at her expenses to take care of the kids and the house but she is not prepared. The police shouted at her and told her to go to court.
My question is I want to take full custody of my sons and I don’t want my wife to see them ever again. My sons are ready to say they hate her and don’t want to see her unless she comes back to our house. I am SSLC and she is post graduate b.ed. Can she demand maintenance or can I demand maintenance from her. She has just joined a school near her parents house. Her people are very superstitious and I am very much against and I don’t want my sons to get trapped in their superstitious beliefs. I don’t want them to ever go to their house. I found a paper hidden by my wife in which she has written about doing prayers to make her husband’s heart restless and listen to her always and to become life long obedient to her and on the 7th day of prayers she must give 12 rotis with sweet with intention to make her husband lifelong obedient to her. PLEASE ADVISE as I love my sons more than my life. Thanks
