Dear All
Dear All,
I have filed for RCR with the Gurgaon Distt family court in March 2010 and my wife has denied to joined me twice, once in Lok Adalat n once in Mediation center. The judje has now asked me to provide evidence in my next date. I am also paying maitenance to her for my son. It has been openany said by my in-laws, wife, her relatives and her lawyer that whatever possible I do, she will not return back and will not give divorce either and will continue hurting me financially and mentally till the time my son is 18.
I request your suggestions on my following queries,
1. Can they really do what they are threatening to do. I have never done anything wrong to her and loved her the most in my life. But the problem started when she got pregnent and her parents wanting her to do the the delivery at their place. We did not had any issue with that but somehow her parents thought that we may not agree to it so one day her father came (October 2008) and took her stating that she is not feeling well and will send her back in 8-10 days. After 10 days when we called he said he will send after the delivery which was scheduled around 2.5 months later.
During that time we had fight and I even went to the extent of saying to my father in law that he allowed her wife to come back and stay after 15 years of separation but I will not. This thing hurted his ego and now considers me the biggest enemy. My mother in law lived 15 years with her parents after my wife got birth.
2. Me and my family have made countless efforts to purse them to send her back but that person is not ready to hear. Initially my wife agreed to come back in absence of her father but later her father denied to send her back and she did not opposed that. My father in law is a person who does not have any friends, do not goes to functions and do not talk to neighbours. He is in depression since his left him and evenafter she returned back they do not live as husband wife. They live in separate corners of their house in different rooms.
3. I have tried my best to get her back and still wants to. I dont think I will be able to love anyone in my life as much I love her. But, now its almost 3 years since she has left me and not a single time she called me and now she is threatening me too. Iknow want to just get out of this relationship so that I atleast can concentrate on my career without all this tension, othetr I will too go into depression and become a Physic as my father in law.
4. Do I wait for the RCR judjement and than for one more year or do I file for divorce immediately. I have lot of points proving cruelty for that matter. But which way it will be more easy and fast because they do not want me to have divorce.
