I am Naren. I got married in Mar-11. I work in gulf. I am a CA and well settled. I have in my family my elder brother who is married and a sister who is also married. We don't have any relatives. Now the problems in my marriage are as below:
1. They lied us about her graduation. (She was failing exams for many years and though she eventually cleared her exams now.)
2. She is partially deaf with both ears, they lied us about that as well. I realized her hearing problem within few weeks of wedding. We started the medical.
Above 2 are not reason for me wanting a divorce, but to tell that her family is lieing since beginning.
3. As I live in gulf, all the efforts for marriage like search etc were done by my bro & bhabhi. My wife is so insecure especially abt my bhabhi that she started hating them like enemies. I have good relationship with my bro & bhabhi and we discuss family matters and decide things. I realize her hatred soon after marriage and tried covince her that she is more important to me but I can't break my relationship with them. They are the family. From MAr-11 till Dec-11 we India trice, once on my mom's death (2 weeks in Apr-11), annual vacation Jul-11 (I stayed fr 3 weeks, she stayed additionally for 1 extra month). Within that period, she humilated them very badly. and Dec-11.
4. She is a big liar. Even though I discussed everything with her truthfully, she lies to me on everything.
5. In Jul-11 we had big fight but I still decided to continue the marriage. In Dec-11 we had a fight and her family memebers (she has big list of relatives) came with her uncles and aunts and threatened us with dire consequences even though they know that she is at fault. She is the one who lies, disrespect etc. While leaving they shouted that I beat her etc etc even in street to insult me in whole neighbourhood though I had never resort to physical violence.
Now I have decided that I cant take it any more. I left her at her parents. I asked for mutual divorce but she is not agreeing. I thought a lot about giving it another try but a girl who is not even sorry for her mistakes and put blames on others.
How I go about divorce as she is not agreeing for mutual divorce and contested divorce is long specially when Hindu marriage act doesn't recognize continous lies, disrespect, humilation etc as reason for divorce specailly from a women's side.
I am willing to pay whole amount they spend on wedding. Infact they had limited budget as they are not much well off, I took care of many expenses on my own which are normally done by bride's side in a hindu wedding. We didn't take any dowry. Not even the basic items.
