Rcr against nri husband

Filing RCR is an option, but trust me RCR is a toothless tiger, no court can ever force your husband to live with you even after you win it ! he can be indirectly coerced through attachment of property but never made to live when he does not want to. I appreciate that you do not want to file criminal cases, ultimately they don't help, people think by arm-twisting they can make their husbands live with them under fear of criminal cases and everything but that does not work. Would still advise you to file an RCR - coupled with maintenance cases atleast for the children.

Thank you sir.

What if he chooses not to reply to RCR or appear in court for hearing? He is not in India. Can he give that as a reason for abstaining from the hearing/ prolong the case? 

Can the court ask us to take marital counselling?

Take divorse ...... Or keep on crying false !!

We sent him a notice and  he replied thro' advocate that he is willing to re-unite subject to conditions. He was demanding apology for all my actions(fabricated!) & denied all his misdeeds. So,we went ahead & filed RCR.

Two summons has been issued so far but he has not appeared.  His advocate appears in court & says summons have not reached him as he is out of India

 The case got adjourned twice. 1st counselling also got adjourned. It has been 6 months .

 My questions:

1. Why will he delay the case if he really wants re-union? Is he playing safe?

2. When he could reply to initial notice sent on same address, how could court accept that consequtive notices were not served?

3. What is my way out now? should we press for ex-parte order?

  (My advocate doesnt seem to bother as he keeps demanding money for new summons & appearance!)

HI SELVAPRIYA inadvertentlyperhaps you are praising your husband. you wrote " My husband refuses to live separately with me. He wants me to be with his parents". I salute your husband for his this very quality. ONLY A DUTIFUL SON CAN BE A DUTIFUL HUSBAND. The key to your husbands heart is perhaps through your MIL. I feel the day you will find ways to get the affection of your MIL. all your problems will be solved and you will never ever require to know anything about law and legal procedures.All you need is to go to some well meaning elderly lady in your family to learn a trick or two about how to win the heart of husband and inlaws. you don't need a lawyer. initially you may need to put aside your ego and crossover the barrier of mistrust. later things will work on principle of mutual respect.Pl. ignore my thoughts if you don't like them. regards and good luck ASHOK

 agree with ashok shrivastva

Ashok & shally, Thanks i understand your point. But no normal person will take to court when issue is sorted out in family.

Yes, there may be 1 or 2 women, but in most cases suffering is real. If it was not for my son, i would have ended my life long back. surviving on anti-depressants.

We spoke several times both personally & with elderly people from both sides.

If he intends to live together, i would ask sorry & forgive too.

On winning heart of MIL, that will happen only if i rob my parents of everything they have! 

If anybody can suggest me on my RCR questions, pls do!

It is sad after living with your husband for 2.5yrs and being an educated woman and a mother of a wonderful kid, you couldnt win your husband's love and affection. God knows what you are upto..

If you really mean "robbing your parents" for the sake of keeping your marriage on stretcher and to satisfy your MIL, you are entitled to file any damn criminal case available in the book.

it's easy to point fingers on others for your own lack of abilities and no RCR can get your husband back. I am damn sure you played your cards pretty badly and your husband one lucky goat being an NRI is free from all legal hastles.

Now you got one card "your son"

File for divorce/heavy maintenance and keep the custody of your son with you. You may get a chance to catch your husband.

Get divorce. No other real option here.

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