Dear Sunisu,
I see your explanation carries different version( your version) I find there is gap, from your Husband and /In Law perspective!
As I myself seen many families from both sides let me explain, Encourage you to read and absorb consciously NOT FOR THE ARGUMENT SAKE.
@Samuel -Thank you very much.
I made a police complaint as my husband and his family was not answering our calls and mails and they were ignoring us for more than 2 months even after multiple attempts to reach them. No one came to see my baby after delivery and no one from his family attended my baby's naming ceremony.
From when your husband started missing phone call/email? Any reason behind? – Just for baby girl??
This sounds silly fight that had been broken out obviously when you are at mom’s house… Wife give less ears and importance to husband after baby born. Husband can’t take it all of sudden. And I anticipate there would have been already a smoke on earlier little issue( Like reluctant to come back to husband house, baby name one sided, gold etc) Once you come to mom’s house wives find an opportunity to take actions!Yes instigation by divine mom.
If they are not attending calls or emails if you feel disowned, why you did not try thru Common person/Family elders/Relatives/ Counseling…..? Was complaining Police station a option you had, just because women empower more at police station using bad remark Eg 498a/DV…??? This threatening cant work in matrimony life which is supposed to be life of love!
When we called up after delivery she just told us that she was shocked to hear that its a baby girl and also born on an inauspicious day (as per them) and my baby would bring bad luck to them .After this they stopped talking to us completely.
Common your MIL is 50+ elders speaks instantly + Phone response would have been interpreted/mistakenly been understood... I see, this is a pure interpretation just to point finger. It is obvious that a pregnanat lady birth could have been a male/female baby…, Female baby could not even brought a biggest surprise, their expectation would have been changed- Give a break! If it is true, my view is there should have been more room given to understand their expectation … that should not be a police station.
Only once I filed the complaint and when the police called them, then did they care to come to my place and have a talk with us.
I complained that my in-laws and husband are not happy with a baby girl and are not ready for any mutual talks. Also mentioned that they have held back all my things and are not ready to return it.
What do you mean “only once Complaint”? Don’t you realize its too early to step into police station? Now, what did you achieve at police station…, Money speaks there a lot!
Police station is end of decision and there is down curve in matrimonial relationship. Still you could have tried among elders! Husbands are not Fraud or culprits it is their emotions and expectation turn down they act silly for some time! Police station would give us( Husbands) a bad shade that would make many of us to see wives like a living/deadly monster. That’s the fact once for all! Wives find a way PS and court are a paradise to bring a temporarily blossom flowers in abandoned life!
After this my husband came thrice to the police station and each time he returned back saying he would give my things. Until I met him in the police station, I was of the hope that something would work out and probably after counseling things would change. I was thinking that I would first take all my things from him, go for a separation and give some more time to this relationship before breaking it completely.
Is your motive to separate or Reunion or getting back your things? What was the change you were expecting after police station a lovely honey-bunny life with hubby? Patients could have been absorbed and treated these silly misunderstanding in more matured way! You will see in another 5 years, who is a looser.
Things can be earned, the lost fame and peace of mind at police station cannot be restored.
My husband told me that he would not return my certificates and other things only if I give him mutual divorce. Even when we met three times after the complaint was lodged, he never bothered to ask about our baby once.
If you had decided for separation go for MCD what stops you now? Go for what you wanted to achieve ? Why Cat on the wall now?
I never wanted a divorce,but I don’t think there is any point in holding on to this relationship and I don’t seem to have a choice as well.
Confusion! Never wanted Divorce? So far I have been reading your story that you desperately need a break from husband…, J Where Mother Therasa born now in you??
Common, from the beginning your focus all on your things, Not interested on Husband and husband family, Separation etc.., now sounding you don’t need Divorce, need little help.
My husband wants a divorce and his terms are that I should give him a mutual consent for divorce and only then he would return my certificates. He also told me that he would return my money and my ornaments once divorce is declared
May I know when your husband started divorce? After PS complaint or right after knowing its baby girl?
and he would also deduct around 5 lakh rupees for my expenses during the time I stayed with him and he has also asked me to return some gold ornaments which he never gifted /gave me .
that’s not possible from your husband statement. He can’t deduct any amount, after all married life is not a Paying guest. If he never given anything, let him prove otherwise he will learn his falsehood shortly. You keep telling the fact.
My lawyer told me that it would take years for me to get back my things and the best option is to agree as per my husband’s conditions. Also I don’t feel emotionally strong to fight a case for years to get back my own certificates and other valuables
Once you are staged to go separate by Law, be strong and prepared for all consequences…. Life is not all about your precious monetary things and physical assets.
Ø You Baby girl life, as she is gonna grow as a wonderful lady in this society.
Ø As a female girl, she will look for dad’s shoulder.
Ø You, obviously young, needed a companion to lead in this society…
Ø Your family now or later feel being single mother.
Ø Of course your husband, Living thinking on wasted years and missing her daughter.
