My husbend harrasing me, senior please help me..

There is no law to stop talking to your guy friend but you gotta adjust in a marriage...

 

You can take care of your family the way you want to....You may file a DV and a 498a but it is going to have a weak base..

 

No maintenance should be allowed to you in the light of your capability to work.

 

I would suggest you to make up your mind to what you want to do. Once you've done it, you may work out a mutual conlusion which may mean a divorce by mutual consent. You may file for maintenance independently too.

 

Regards

Chetan(dot)7679(at)gmail(dot)com

poor lady :(

you have written several times about  your legal rights but what about your duties towards your husband? though you want to take care of your parents and that is commendable but you have to strike a balance between these. you also wrote" rather due to his age he want baby first .. But I don't want" .To me your husband values this marriage though it may not be up to your expectations. pl do not ever think of dv or 498a it will destroy both of you its the really MAD thing to do(MUTUALLYASSURED DESTRUCTION).Instead have a truthful and frank discussion with him . If finally you feel marriage is not workable go for MCD.mediation by a person who both of you trust may help a lot  before thinking of mcd. All  the best.

Reading at your story,

1) You wont get maintenance Reason: You are educated and capable to earn

2) If you used word starting with "b" and ending with "d", SC clearly gave verdict wife using such word, will be cruelty on husband, and you wont get even a penny.

3) If he says he wants you ( no matter whether drama or not) and you stay alone , it is again considered, fault is at your side and  no alimony, given the fact  that it is proved by him

4) Wife can spend her money the way she wants.

Coming to your questions

1) aa :  A  married women  can be friend to anybody   but that nature of frienship should not fall in lines with consumation of s*x mentally or physically. 

2 bb : no issues

3) cc : wife can take care of her parents, no legal issues

4) dd : As I explained if you had used any word like "Bas...td" it is cruelty committed by you on him, hence he can get divorce and no maintenance will be given

5) ee, ff ) both attempt to file 498a and DV not only make you more troublesome, if proven as false case, you will land in with more criminal sections, and AB will be granted as he has valid reason, and you dont have any prima facie for charging 498a. However, filing false 498a to threaten will see you more trouble if he decided to fight, in my opinion he is ready as he recorded all conversations

6)gg) he can request to seek your money earnt through job post marriage for sharing household and in eye of law it is not illegal nor criminal

7) unless it is proven that your father filed false cases, no impact to his job.If multiple cases, you can transfer to your place

8) if he prooves cruelty by you, willful separation by you, and your capability to earn, you will not get maintenance

munni badnaam hui darling tere liye.... Munni why are you cooking stories? Tell me which husband would tolerate his wife talking to her boyfriend that too re-marriage jokes? You seem to be covering up things....if he has recorded then you better be careful as if he able to prove your unscrupulous nature then you will be in trouble....

Better suggest him MCD as such marriages in which wife has been doubted for character cannot be repaired. You seem to have done a big mistakes and now covering up those with 498a and DV.

Better apologize him or clarify you husband about your relation with x-boyfrind (which I dont think he will trust you anymore now).

Trust once lost, is lost forever.

Better go for a amicable MCD else running around courts will spoil your reputation as well as things may come out about your past affair which is still hidden.

munni badnaam hui darling tere liye.... Munni why are you cooking stories? Tell me which husband would tolerate his wife talking to her boyfriend that too re-marriage jokes? You seem to be covering up things....if he has recorded then you better be careful as if he able to prove your unscrupulous nature then you will be in trouble.... Better suggest him MCD as such marriages in which wife has been doubted for character cannot be repaired. You seem to have done a big mistakes and now covering up those with 498a and DV. Better apologize him or clarify you husband about your relation with x-boyfrind (which I dont think he will trust you anymore now). Trust once lost, is lost forever. Better go for a amicable MCD else running around courts will spoil your reputation as well as things may come out about your past affair which is still hidden.

Dear Ashok,

  I appreciate your suggestion.. although I am maintaning my friendship, there is no any wrong intention..

  How he can spoil some body's whole life.. Ok one more thing is that if he will file RCR, then during this case period can I eligible to get maintenance or only if he will file divorce ten I will I will get monthly maintenance upto our case finalization..

Please suggest me in this regard.Because due to his peculier behaviour, I decided to stay whole life at my mother's house rather to ruin my life in such a bu***it guy..

 

Hi Fight for 498,

  I am in such a mental trauma, and you people are making joke on me?

You people can not able to think for a tesion bearing by a wife?

If I will get divorse then cn I eligible to get 50% of their property, according to the new rule?

Ok, this is not fare.. any way if he will spiol my life, then I will offcourse file 498 and DV against him.. Let him come to jail first..then he will realize..

 

Originally posted by : munni
	Hi Fight for 498,   I am in such a mental trauma, and you people are making joke on me? You people can not able to think for a tesion bearing by a wife? If I will get divorse then cn I eligible to get 50% of their property, according to the new rule? Ok, this is not fare.. any way if he will spiol my life, then I will offcourse file 498 and DV against him.. Let him come to jail first..then he will realize..

 50% of husband property do you want for your unfaithful behaviour ?

Get lost !

Go ahead lady ...

you will get 50% of all.....

take calculator n calculate it......

After 4-5 years of this cases just tell us how much you have calculated and how much you got...

Munnie,

You are overlooking some sensible suggestions, if only you want to make your life hell, who are we to stop. Please go ahead, file 498a, DV, 406 etc etc, and you see what emerges. 

There is no new rule that gives you 50% share. Moreover all maintenance laws exist only when husband found to be at fault side.

For a nuetral point of view, suppose if your husband speaks to somebody as friend and that lady says we should marry for the sake of joke, will you laugh it since it is joke? Just to get your views on funnier side.

Hi all seniors,

 Wife go to husbands house, and if husband is cruel to wife, then where she will go?

This is our society? Off course I need to take action using the law..

In this mentality of people, today lady at India is geting turtured, raped and humiliated..

It must need to chage their minds.. We are also equal.. upto when this domination to wife willbe there in India?

Waiting for that rule fo getting 50% property share, once it will in law, then I will come back to all these LCI members..

 

Harassaed women..god is there...

Munni,

Please show us the link or referrence where that new law is drafted. It was proposed as a measure in marria

ge amendment bill 2010 but in current version it is deleted. Wait your whole life, it will never happen. 

You disobey husband need of child and thats not cruel but all that husband does it to you is cruel, selective selfishness is what you suffer from, and Hopefully by the time you file cases, i should complete my law and your husband should meet me. you are one such women affected by radical views, reality will show you.

Hi senoirs,

 Please suggest me on my query.. rether to get comments from some comments from frustrated husbands..

I think few such people they don't have any job , and seating here to comment on those who are really in problem.. They get more enjoyment by clapping for matter for those who are in real problem..

Hope I can get a good suggestion from authentic lawerer..