My first wife passed away in 2008 due to leukemia (natural death), leaving behind a three year old daughter. My mother and my maternal grand mother stay with us (me & my daughter). My daughter is an adopted child as we were issuless during our entire 16 years of marriage.The adoption happened on mutual understanding between both parties and no legalities attached to it. The doctor who knew us helped us with a delivery card which confirmed that my wife herself delivered the child. She also provided us with an attested stamp paper from the mother of the baby confirming that the lady has no qualms in giving away her new born baby to us. This happened in 2005.
I put my profile on a matrimonial site with specifications like i needed a non working lady who would be a mother first to my daughter and then a life parter and got a response resulting in my marriage to an issuless divorcee. She was a working lady and said she is fed up working and intends to be a housewife and is very happy that she is getting what she wanted -a readymade child. Got married in sept 2009 and in march this year she walked out of marriage decamping with some jewellery and also the two documents i referred to in the first paragraph(the stamp paper and the delivery card). She had called her sister and left in the early hours of the day. She called me up later and said that i need to accept a few conditions viz i should give her 20k per month, that i should leave the elders at home and come and stay with her.
She used to raise a fight on some pretext or the other every day and there never was a day that she didnt do this. Having undergone all the turmulous period in my life, i never used to retaliate and always had my mouth shut and accepted whatever wrong she did and said. Also she never tried being a good responsible mom to my daughter. I had not told her about my daughter being not my biological child as i was waiting for the right opportunity to tell her cuz i could see and sense she was never trying to be a good mom in the first place. But she said after she left me that she had come to know that the daughter is an adopted child withing a few days of marriage. Now she says i have hidden this fact from her and there would be many such hidden facts. She continues to say she too would get a child and asks me if i would accept. She is very categoric when she says she would never come back and stay with me.
She never proved to be a good daughter, wife or mom . I am sure you would have dealt with several such similar cases. She keeps calling me and is very authoratative on the phone and goes on calling me and my family members as liars and dictators.I do not retaliate and prefer to be a mute listener as i take care not to say or reply in the same tone which would be provoking. My younger brother( who is very close to me and a real confidant) and his family stay near by in the adjacent building. She is pretty much aware about the fact that i am very close to my brother.
Being a divorcee earlier she is pretty much aware about all the legalities. After seven months of intermittent togetherness with her first husband she got divorced after an eight year battle in the court. Now, the fear of DV, maintenace, 498 or hiding facts (about my daughter which was unintentional) hovers over not just my head but my aged mom, my very aged grandmother, my brother and his family and my daughter. Would there be any arrests? if so how do i prevent these. She always keeps using the word CUSTODY of my daughter? I am worried about my five year old daughter..i love her she is my child and none can take her away from me. Please advise if this new mom who could spend a little over 100 days with me can take away my child as she has the two documents with her.
All the conversations are being recorded. Nothing was given to me during my marriage except one gold ring. She called me up to say that i should send her back all her things. She hasnt left anything here except for a few household clothes, a couple of utensils and cosmetics. I told her i would not be able to send them and i never asked u to leave in the first place and instead i keep telling her to come back. She says she would come one day to collect the left over things.
Does my mother, grandmother and younger brother (who does not stay with me under the same roof) face arrests if any. What happens to my five year old daughter then?
Please advise what has to be done? I am really sorry as i am sure you would find this lengthy. But this is a detailed version of what has happened and i frequently keep asking GOD...where did i go wrong...why did YOU take my first wife away..she was a perfect woman...
