Harassing husband destroys evidence

Dear Querist

I completely agree with you, if they commit any illegal act then they should be punished and it is our duty to do that and support all of the victims to fight against the illegal acts committed by others or family members.

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So due to society you are compelled to live with your demon like husband. This is unbelievable. Nobody will accept your silly excuses. If wife is smart enough to come on this forum and ask her legal questions then she can also stand against the rotten thinking of society. By seeing your english and confidence any one can tell you that you are not a week abla naari you definitely need vengeance against your inlaws and husband.so, plz dont say that you want to live with your husband, say that you need money and nothing else.

Dear Queriest,

You got legal answers from advocates Mr. Nadeem Qureshi, Mr. Mahesh Kumar and Mr. Kapil.  They are good and practical solutions from experienced advocates.  Even Mr. Mahesh suggested you to take the aid of elders to resolve the problem amicably, in your latter posts you explained your elders earliers efforts and the failure in this. 

You just ignore other comments, because they are not legal experts.  They are husbands and fighting cases related to matrimonial matters of their own.  They vent out their frustration against any woman comes on this forum.  so, they are not worth to give even a slight consideration.

Law has provided to women to protect themselves from any harassment - physical or mental from husband and his family side.  Law does not say that once you meet harassment from husband, your only alternative is to go away from him and seek divorce or if he seeks divorce, you readily accept it.  If that is the position, every husband who wants divorce will not go to court seeking divorce, but just harass his wife for a few days so she will go away and seek divorce or accept divorce proposal that comes from husband.  Husbands want such kind of easy piece of cake in matters of divorce.  That is why such acrimonious barbs from the husbands' community hoverring on this forum and waiting to bite a meek wife to come on this forum seeking some legal help.  So, just ignore them and follow the advice of the advocates mentioned above.

I again say that in our country about 98 per cent men and women are good, adjustable and have the talent and capacity to resolve their matrimonial problems and live very happy life.  the problem is with these two per cent marriages in which either husband is wrong or wife is wrong and in some cases both are wrong and in rare cases both are right (but have difficulties such as impotency, pre marital love to some other person, which will not help him/her to adjust to the other spouse, such reasons as totally tempermental differences).  So only on the basis of gender, you cannot and should not find fault.  But here hubands alwasy find fault not just with his own wife but the entire women community and that is the reason they heckle, jibe, jeer and barb whenever a woman comes on the forum with her matrimonial problem.  So ignore them.

Madam, do you know why husbands always find fault with women community?

 

2% wrong women put all the possible false cases one can use against husband on the 98% right men and their family members.  But not even 1 husband can put the same DV/498A on erring 2% women.  This is the fact.

Someone shared this article in this forum:

https://ibnlive.in.com/news/misuse-of-dowry-and-domestic-violence-act-is-a-human-rights-issue/484787-3.html

Few wordings from this article ******************

As per National Crime Records Bureau, from 1998 to 2012 - after rounding off, a total of 10 Lac cases have been filed and 21 lac people have been arrested of which 5 Lac are women, 1 Lac are senior citizens and shockingly 10,000 are minor boys and girls. In the same period, 4,48,704 cases completed trial and a mere 89,452 resulted into conviction and rest whopping 3,59,252 resulted into acquittal!

Lacs are being demanded in exchange of a 498A or 498A settlement. Pay before or after, you make a choice. Everyone including lawyers, police and the girl makes great money in this racket which is approximately a 2000 crore business every year (approximate figure including bails, kickbacks and settlement amounts).

Isn't it funny that a woman who is accusing in-laws of demanding dowry herself then demands 10-15-20-50 lacs for settling the cases? Isn't it funny that cruelty or humiliation she has gone through is bartered for money? I know of an old woman who runs a tea shop being asked 25 Lacs to settle dowry case on her son. Her son's mistake- he doesn't earn much. I wonder if anyone can define this practice as anything but legal terrorism/blackmail /extortion.

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Because of this husband's families are literally scarred now.  Even for small misunderstand/disputes girl's parents interfere, talk like goonda, threaten that they will file cases etc.  They are aware of these cases more so than 10-15 years back.

 

So I really  pity today's wives/girls in this scenario because their marriage cant be saved even for smaller issues/misunderstanding but most of the girls married 10 yrs back have healthy family life because they sacrificed a little, they got adjusted with older people and without fight even smartly they take care of their parents too!  That needs little patience. 

 

I totally agree, today's girls earn more, have more freedom, etc.  So please talk to the boy's side before marriage and please decide before marriage itself whether all your demands will work out or not.  so it will stop at that stage.  But dont think that after marriage you can show the true color and demand one by one with the influence of other people and if your husband doesnt agree, put false cases because that time it becomes an EGO issue!

 

Hema what you want to show here as all men who are fighting his cases are rapists, wife beater, abuser, drug addictors, profound criminals. They are here due to his faults? No hema you are wrong. We are here due to one sided laws. We are here due to partiality done by indian judiciary. We are here due to the modern era of women. We are here due to untollerance of domestic violence from our wives. We are here due to not filling the pockets of each agents who need money to not make us harass.

Hema, your thought is like a woman because you are a woman but for few minutes think like we men who has been harassed by wives as well as laws you will get your answers. I hope my words may not dissapoint you.

Thankyou for your valuable advice and suggestions- Adv. Kapil Sir, Adv. Nadeem Sir, Adv. Mahesh Sir. Thankyou Hema M'am for your rightful words. I agree with you. Matters must be settled as much as possible. I will try once more. Patience never killed anyone, so why not. 

Again, thankyou for your guidance and I will get in touch in pm. Thankyou.

Perfect reply by@sister.....sensible reply with statistical support to prove her point, really appreciate the fact that she being a woman, still stands up for justice towards harassed men and their families. @hema...,,it has become a fashion nowadays to accuse men, irrespective of whether they are guilty or not, just spare a thought for innocent elderly and respectful ladies too, who are dragged into the trap of dv and 498 cases, just because they happen to be mothers or grand mothers of husbands. Even the honourable sc has given its observations of these laws being used to legally terrorize innocent people

@fighting back   -  Thank You!

 

Originally posted by : hema
	Dear Queriest, You got legal answers from advocates Mr. Nadeem Qureshi, Mr. Mahesh Kumar and Mr. Kapil.  They are good and practical solutions from experienced advocates.  Even Mr. Mahesh suggested you to take the aid of elders to resolve the problem amicably, in your latter posts you explained your elders earliers efforts and the failure in this.  You just ignore other comments, because they are not legal experts.  They are husbands and fighting cases related to matrimonial matters of their own.  They vent out their frustration against any woman comes on this forum.  so, they are not worth to give even a slight consideration. Law has provided to women to protect themselves from any harassment - physical or mental from husband and his family side.  Law does not say that once you meet harassment from husband, your only alternative is to go away from him and seek divorce or if he seeks divorce, you readily accept it.  If that is the position, every husband who wants divorce will not go to court seeking divorce, but just harass his wife for a few days so she will go away and seek divorce or accept divorce proposal that comes from husband.  Husbands want such kind of easy piece of cake in matters of divorce.  That is why such acrimonious barbs from the husbands' community hoverring on this forum and waiting to bite a meek wife to come on this forum seeking some legal help.  So, just ignore them and follow the advice of the advocates mentioned above. I again say that in our country about 98 per cent men and women are good, adjustable and have the talent and capacity to resolve their matrimonial problems and live very happy life.  the problem is with these two per cent marriages in which either husband is wrong or wife is wrong and in some cases both are wrong and in rare cases both are right (but have difficulties such as impotency, pre marital love to some other person, which will not help him/her to adjust to the other spouse, such reasons as totally tempermental differences).  So only on the basis of gender, you cannot and should not find fault.  But here hubands alwasy find fault not just with his own wife but the entire women community and that is the reason they heckle, jibe, jeer and barb whenever a woman comes on the forum with her matrimonial problem.  So ignore them.

@ Hema .

 

1. From my observation it seems you vent out your anger on only the males who give their replies in this forum who are minus the tag of Lawyer . 

 

2. You never reply to the author from a legal point of view all by youself but only state follow the advise of this person or that person are you ignorant of law being a law officer that you are unable to give your legal point of view  . 

 

3.Now you have stated that the reply of Nadeem Quershi is good and practical . I point to you that Mr Nadeem Quershi  has stated file domestic violence case as well as CRPC  125 .  Why should the author of this post file two cases . When the provision of CRPC 125 is covered in the domestic violence act that is maintenance .

Meaning to say that you want the author of this post to pay the legal fees for two cases when the same can be covered under one . Use your head Heyna  from a Logical point of view .Just having a law degree does not a lawyer make .

 

 

4.Earlier you have stated that 90 % and now you say that 98 percent of women and men are good and 2 % are bad from where have you drawn these stastics are these your own or are these from a survey report you are stating and can you show us from which survey report you have quoted the same  , and in which category do you fall into can you state !! . Do you decide it on your own or with those F's  and B's and those statments like go to hell etc :-) .What about the false allegations you put against people  like bottom pinching etc. 

 

5. @ sister's and @ Mahesh's reply is authentic . 

 

6. The author of this post has stated that harassing husband destroys evidence . Without pointing to what evidence has been destroyed . Later on is rather asking in this forum what evidence is required to file a case. Hence fighting back but natural has replied its vengenance .

 

 

 

You can easily safeguard the evidence by talking to them over phone or in person by extending the discussion on money(dowry). This will help you if they are not ready to give divorce. Since they are money oriented you better think and decide whether you want to live with him or not.  If you don’t want to live with him then don’t waste time by filing a case and get it dragged for 5 years.  Life is so short, lookout your way and go ahead if you don’t want to live with him. Try for an amicable solution and demand for the  amount which you feel it is the right amount and stick to it.

Actually, What is the "evidence" that got destroyed ?

Sansh, you can give a complaint in mahila cell at bangalore. Have you sent any notice to him? If not then you can send one. Where did u get married? Still your husband s family is waiting for your money?

Sansh, you can give a complaint in mahila cell at bangalore. Have you sent any notice to him? If not then you can send one. Where did u get married? Still your husband s family is waiting for your money?