I am married since 2004. This is my second marriage. The first husband eloped to USA and I was compelled to seek exparte divorce. I have a son from the first marriage. it took me a lot of emotional courage to believe and trust some one else to marry again. My husband (second) had met my earlier husband and was my friend while I was traumatised by the running away of my then husband. After a year our friendship deepened and he proposed to a committed relation. I have been very clear since the beginning that I would consider any relation only if he is ready to officially adopt my son and marry me. Also made him well aware that certain facts will always remain, my divorce status, my child, and my age—I am elder by 11 years. He assured me that he is well aware and accepts this and that his parents who’s only child he is have never been caring towards even his basic requirements since his childhood, although they have been well affording. His parents anyways were insisting that he marry a rich girl to save their money or a girl who has a greencard. He said that he loves me and my child and will not mind any opposition from his parents which he said that they will no matter who he will marry. We married in 2004 and he adopted my son. Ever since marriage he had to be accommodated in the house on my son’s name got by court order against maintainence for the first marriage. It was well conveyed to my husband that this house can be used for not more that 5 years and that he should focus on his work and growth and earn well to be able to take up the responsibilities. Rather than concentrating on our relation, his job he would rather work on trying to reach out to his parents who since then have been trying to break our marriage. They shifted from Mumbai to Gujrat but the mother keeps making phones to her son, my husband and provokes him against me and my son, dissuades him from putting efforts to concentrate on jobs. Although my husband disowns that his mother’s phones influence him, he finds reasons to pick up fights with our son (adopted) or me which turn into violence. I have made NC’s, written to woman’s cell, marriage counselors, friends to talk to him, these work for a short span and his frustration and inferiority complexes, provoked by his mother’s phones, trigger violence. My son was 9 when adopted now 18. Even today after 9 years of marriage my husband has failed to provide me a house and has stayed in the house provided by my father, continues violence against my son and me, keeps leaving jobs so no consistent income, is able to irregularly give me money only for certain house expenses, I have always needed to use money from my father to pay for the deficits, maintainence of the house we stay, taxes, son’s education, clothes etc etc.
My husbands regularly threatens me for divorce
Does not give me regular house house expenses regularly
No responsibility toward son’s education
Blames me for not having a biological child (now I am operated for uterus removal)
His mother not only phones him and provokes but has also been phoning me from gujrat for all these years to abuse and curse me
He says that as I am qualified I should work and raise money…1) I have regular health issues 2) I am already not been given a house by my husband nor has he taken up basic responsibilities of a husband and he oscillates towards his parents ignoring what his mother harasses me.
Is there a legal way to bring sense and responsibility in my husband. Can he throw a divorce at me as an escape route? How can law help me to tackle my father and particularly mother in law.
I want to have e legal remedies to protect me, my marriage and tackle my husband and his wicked mother.
I am n great emotional pain, please suggest legal solutions.
Divorce is not an option for me so please suggest how to bring sense into my husband and that he takes his responsibilities.
