My major fear is not 498a,pwdva2005

nothing can protect u

bewakoof hai ... jane do

 

fight all the cases on merits

i hv same problem . Got married on 18 june 11 .. .in period 3 july to 29 dec ,she stayed wid me for 2.5 months as her arrogant , egoistic parents were taking her bk to thr place on d pretext of hindu marathi festivals . . I hv had caught her possible previous affair bt frm my side , i had given a damn to tht bt i hv had made a mistake of bringing tht thing to both parent's notice. . She ran away on 29 dec and stayed away frm my home for a period of 1.5 months . . All my efferts of bringin her bk went in vain . . So in frusteration , i tried a fake sucide attempt which forced her to return . . Bt again problem started when she got preggy , she wanted to abort bt i opposed , so again her father took her away on pretext of sendin her bk after few days . . Bt same thin happened , when i went to thr place , her dad threatened me wid life and refused to send her bk and he told me tht i need a divorce for my girl which i opposed becos i dnt hv much prblm wid my wife bt wid her parents n sis as they always brainwashed her . . After a week , he took away all household items gifted by him . . he started threatenin me n my family wid fake dv , 498a cases. . After i came to knw tht she has aborted d child , i got angry n sent a lawyer notice askin her to come bk after 2 months. . Her father sent a lawyer notice askin for divorce if i sent another notice . As per thr notice i started a dialouge wid my wife thru her relatives n frnds as she had stopped all kinda communicatin wid me. .this thin went for 2 more months which irritated him as i refused to bow down in frnt of him. So he filed a divorce case citin reason of my notice . (wtf). . And he is askin 5 lakh . . Which i dnt want to give neither a divorce nor 5 lakh . . i dnt want to run after lawyers n court cases . .so got no option , i m ready for MCD . . Bt i dnt want to pay anythin and want 35 gm gold bk as he hd promised my dad tht after i sign divorce paper he wud return gold . . Nw i m ready bt he dnt want to keep his word and he want 50k and gold . . As thr is no abosolute reason for divorce . . I m just draggin this case by takin new dates . . My suggestion . . Just drag this case. . And i guess tht u made a mistake by bringin law just after 1.5 months separation . . Dude it is too early for such thing . .just dnt contact any1 for d next 5,6 months . . If they understood ur value thn they wud send her bk. . And u wont hv any kinda prblm in future . . Let them go either court or start a dialouge

Dear Mr. Victim, What I have experienced in my life is "honesty and good behavior always pay." Sometimes you need to be diplomatic. Give her lots of love so that she cannot go against you. Be diplomatic with good behavior and try to make her emotional. Then you would be able handle her easily and this way two life would be saved.

Originally posted by : victim
	1) got married in jan 2012 2) she deserted me in june 2012 Why she deserted you?  Why did she marry you in the first place??? 3) all efforts are always from my side and went futile due to their unreasonable demand of ghar jamai If they wanted a ghar jamai, a dog which will follow her and her parents everywhere, they should have brought a DOG, a good Labrador would have done.  Why simply marry you and then ask you to be a dog?  Atleast if they would have put such conditions before marriage, then you would have certain time to think and put your leg forward.  Is this not cheating?  Shaadi karlo baad mein I want you to be a ghar jamai, come and stay with me, I wont come, you only come, even if you come stay with me.. your parents cannot come to meet you, you can go and meet them, but not always, when I tell you should go, when I tell sit you should sit, when I tell shi!t you should sh!t. By the way, did she not offer you a diamond studded dog belt to put around your neck?   Agar aapke patni ko itna hi karna tha, toh unko bolini chahiye thi ki dekh pyaare, these are the conditions from my side...  4) no communication between us since last 1 month As usual, he should have called, he should have come and spoken to me on his knees, why the hell did he marry me, just that he wanted me to be his cook? etc.. So there is pindrop silence :-)) 5) no cases filed so far from both sides. Bade hi punya ka kaam kiya hoga aapne, ki aapki patni ne ab tak koi case darj nahi ki aapke aur aapke mata pita ke khilaaf.  You should do pooja of her photo dailiy three times, aur cycle agarbatti hi use karna.. thanks in advance regards victim

For all if's and But's, time only is the answer.  If she files any kind of case, 125, 498a, DV, no running away, just face it with merits of the case!

File Judicial separation, once they come for discussion...have a go.

dont sit idle and waste quality time of your life.