My son custody

If you have filed alimony appliction you will lose custody of kid, coz you dont have money, how will you look after kid?  so kid custody be given to husband.  If you prove that you are capable of taking care of kid, then alimony you wont get, as you are capable of taking care of kid, you as well can take care of yourself also, so its a catch situation.

Your husband should also show that he has enough sources and time to look after kid, only then kid be given to him. But once when kid turn 5, kid will be asked who it want to live with, then its up to kid who it wants to go with.

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U have to prove that U have been staying separately since 3 yrs along with UR son.Child custody is usually given to the mother that too a 4 yr old boy.The court will certainly award the custody to U but UR husband has to pay maintenance to both of U.

the custody of a child who is usually below five years would be given to the mother only.beyond five years the child preference would be considered  while deciding the custody.the fact that the husband failed to even see the child during these four years right from the birth of the child would add to your advantage.