Need some help and suggestion

Its really saddening to ready your query.  You married a ROWDY !

Why did you marry???  

For what pleasure did you marry I dont understand!  My sympathies are with you.

You should not have raised your hand on her, that is a mistake you did.

Your mom should have filed a DV case against your wife in the first instance when your wife hit her.

Even now ask your mom to file a DV case against your wife.  These kind of people wont mend ways with smooth talk.

As you have already filed for divorce and as the matter is already in court your wife cannot file a 498a.  But your wife may try to file the same by bribing the police.  However, arrest is not possible now under 498a [dowry prohibition act].

But there is a chance that your wife may file a Domestic Violence case on you and your mother.  There is no immunity against DV case, and once the DV case is filed will take 6-7 years to get over.

You have not mentioned the reason why you had to shift from saidabad to kothapet.

Dont worry, her claims of paying you huge sum of money and gold as dowry will fall flat on its face, prove it via your evidences.

Is there any mention of drinking in the said 2 police complaints?  If yes, it will go against you in court of law, so beware.

She cannot claim the property, but if you fail to pay her maintenance for years together, the piled up old balance if you dont clear off and if you dont have any source of income, then the court may attach such property.

Looking at your case, and that your wife is not ready for one time settlement, your divorce case will be over by about 2021.  Make that 7-8 years from now.

You can remarry once you get the divorce decree, marrying without getting divorce decree will attract jail term upto 7 years.

All the best.

Anti-social elements ? Good Lord.

If there is a mention of drinking and shouting or beating in the said complaint, you are in for trouble. Court accepts what is written in the complaint.

You will get divorce decree in 7-8 years. 22 or 23, it does not matter, even your wife has to wait same amount of time for getting remarried.

You need to give 50 lacs as settlement amount, as that is what they are demanding. Or you will have to sit and bargain with her according to your pocket.

Only 3 options for you.

1. Contest divorce case, get divorced, remarry.

2. Dont want to contest divorce case for 7-8 years, pay her 50 lacs, get rid of headache, you get divorce in 6 months time via MCD, then remarry again.

3. Dont want to pay her money [50 lacs] and dont want to roam to court for years together, bring wife back, lead happy married life [whatever happy means to you].

But why would DV take so many years? and why should i pay 50 lacs when the family gave me peanuts and mental torchure? I have decided that i do not want her in my life so the last option has to be nullified..

·        ·        Very Sorry to hear your story and she hitting your Mother is absolutely not acceptable. Welcome to the club.

·        Why do DV take so many years? – It is the way Indian law was drafted, thinking that Divorce rate was very low.

·        @Helping Hand – How does he know or any know he is going to get married to a rowdy (bitter half)? The real colors show up after marriage.

·        If every knew what the future looks like, then everyone will try to avoid that.

·        @Venkat – They have evidences of what you spoke and perverted language (recorded conversations), you should have avoided that and they are so intelligent enough that they have recorded it. You have beaten her and it is not acceptable. The evidences make them stronger.

·        Wind is in favor of them

·        Okay past is past. Now you have Present and Future.

·        So you have 2 options 1 or 2 as you have ruled out 3.

·        If you want to close everything smoothly involve few Family friends and relatives and then bargain. (Like vegetable market.)

·        This is my Out Of Box thought not a legal advice - Just sell your property and relocate to a different city (may be Delhi, Haryana or Nepal) (As you have mentioned you and your Mother). She can file divorce and get an exparte as Husband is missing.

·        Money Lost, Nothing is Lost.

·        Health Lost, Something is Lost.

Thanks for your suggestion Superhero..even many of my friends suggested to move to some other city...will see wat to do in few months...will try to fond some job outside this state..

Venkat,

Very sorry to hear about your case. My case is at least 95% similar to your case. Be patient. If you have decided that you don't want her back, go for contested divorce. Get a good lawyer. Mostly with 2 to 3 years she will come for settlement (out of the court). Take care of your health, your parents.

Good luck in your fight.

Hi Harrassed...Please pm me ur no...i have sent u a msg..wanna talk to u as we both sailing in the same boat..

Venkat,

Please check your PM.

Hi All,

In continuation with my story mentioned above..As i said that I filed divorce in the local court and my first hearing is on 27th Feb'15. The girls's family stays in Visakhapatnam and the whole family came for a big fight last week to Hyderabad, the family is threatening my mom n me that the family will se our end..with the help of local neighbourhood, we avoided physical harrasment from the family but the family while leaving our place threatened us that we will be called to Visakhapatnam and there we will be ill-treated n physically harassed by the local police in visakhapatnam. as the family is from that place we fear that something bad might happen to us.. as expected we got a call today from the mahile police station in vizag that the girl has reported something against me and i need to attend the couselling,but i know if i go there i will be beaten up for sure as happened earlier..i told the same thing to the police as well but the police says that if i do not go for counselling i will be arrested and the girl will file 498A case..

pls suggest me what should i do..i am not willing to go to visakhapatnam and i informed the same thing to my advocate..my advocate will speak to that police station tomorrow and will inform that i have filed divorce case and give the case no and other details.. pls give any other suggestions if anyone has..

Originally posted by : Venkat
	Hi All, In continuation with my story mentioned above..As i said that I filed divorce in the local court and my first hearing is on 27th Feb'15. The girls's family stays in Visakhapatnam and the whole family came for a big fight last week to Hyderabad, the family is threatening my mom n me that the family will se our end..with the help of local neighbourhood, we avoided physical harrasment from the family but the family while leaving our place threatened us that we will be called to Visakhapatnam and there we will be ill-treated n physically harassed by the local police in visakhapatnam. as the family is from that place we fear that something bad might happen to us.. as expected we got a call today from the mahile police station in vizag that the girl has reported something against me and i need to attend the couselling,but i know if i go there i will be beaten up for sure as happened earlier..i told the same thing to the police as well but the police says that if i do not go for counselling i will be arrested and the girl will file 498A case..   pls suggest me what should i do..i am not willing to go to visakhapatnam and i informed the same thing to my advocate..my advocate will speak to that police station tomorrow and will inform that i have filed divorce case and give the case no and other details.. pls give any other suggestions if anyone has..

Tell them you have filed the divorce case as mentioned by the advocate. Check with your advocate what else can be done legally.

Don't fear, Have positive thoughts..You are already projecting fear...they are making use of it.

Everything will be alright. Send a PM to Helping Hand.

Even write a letter to SP and DSP.

One thing is if you have courage go to Visakhapatnam and record everything via video and audio then show it to Advocate and fight accordingly.