It's quite pathetic that member's are enforcing their view just opposite to the desire of this lady....
No relation of husband and wife work on by giving suggestion or moral word's by we the third party.
A relation of husband and wife work's only when two heart's are ready to accept each other and goes with love till the end of their life.
1. In this particular case,I would suggest lady to not worry about the withdrawl of case as you can't do anything against this as the divorce was filled by him and he has very much right to call off at any time he wish to do.
2. If you don't want to live with him then clearly have a word with your husband that you want to move on and for this you are very lieneant on final alimony. You will take a genuine or whatever wish of your husband to give the amount.
3. If you are concerned for both i.e freedom + money then you have to wait for long time as the case has to be fillled by you on the ground of mental cruelity + desertion and the process will go on.But not sure that you will get the desired amount or not because you are earning lady and easily sustain your life without any beg.
4. The child has to be gone through the WGA and whoever claim's the best wellfare of the child the custody will goes to his/her and next adjacent partner left with only visitation right.However,maintenance has to be proportioned by both according to fact's and circumstances.
5. So, to achieve everything is not possible until or unless you don't have paitience or you are not ready to be contented by what you have and live happy in every condition.
6. You major concern------if you can't live with him then No law on this earth will force you to live with,so again it's your choice as what to do next.
Best of luck.