Seeking for divorce

The only problem you raised against her is that she is asking/ordering you to do domestic work. It will be silly to go for divorce on this small issue. If you have ego problem in doing domestic work then hire maid or cook etc.

In general, if husband and wife are working then husband should must help wife in domestic work.

Please note that if you opt for MCD then you will have to shell out good amount of money and if it is contested divorce then you both will be spending time and money in courts for years. Contested divorce is generally challanged in high court and supreme court and by for that it takes about about 10 to 15 years.

If doing domestic work is problem.......engage a domestic-help & give peace a chance. Believe me, getting divorce from a nonwilling wife is very difficult & any half backed adventure from ur side may spoil ur + ur parents life

@author,

Forget about getting divorce now, the sooner you want, the longer it will take.

1) IF you can save your marriage try to do so. You try to 'manage' your wife (I didnt use the word 'control' because there are many idiots who may take objection to it :) Try to make it better for both you and your wife. It seems your wife is misled and misguided by her parents/her upbringing. You know the situation best and you are the best judge. I know a few guys who have successfully saved their marriage from such MILs. But this will need your wife's cooperation.

2) IF NOT - if you are so sure you cant live - then first try to minimize the damage. Live separately (from your parents) or live separately from your wife. Wait for 1 year period to get over. Do not talk about Divorce with your wife till then.  Once your wife realizes that your marriage is DEAD, she may herself ask you for divorce. If she has a BF or someone else, you collect evidences. As per your posts, I couldnt see any strong Cruelty factor to claim divorce.

Many people like to play these kind of games - they are very quiet and cooperative before marriage, but they have a hidden agenda in their mind. Once you get married they start dictating and try to dominate. Typical Indian Soap Opera. Unfortunately you got sucked into it. Fortunately, you can still fight it.

3) I don't know what kind of warning your MIL gave, but if she referred to you AND your family members, it is obvious she is hinting at filing dowry case against you. Just read about 498a first, and in future you may be able to laugh on your MIL's face.There is more than enough info on this portal

4) Many will suggest that you succumb to the pressure tactics of your wife, just to save the trauma of false dowry cases. I (and many more here) dont support that. If you dont cooperate with your wife and your MIL is adamant, sooner or later your MIL will start talking about 498a. Until then, you need to WAIT.

Dear Experts/Advisors,

Thanks for your valuale words, the thing is that its not about domestic work only, its all about the nuisance she is creating and getting me into trouble,  now almost every day she become voilent and thrown the things at house, shouts loudly, keep on blaming in so many ways, after office hours when i go to home starts fighting with me if i say some thing then she start putting blame on me and started crying etc.

Life has become mess, i know divorce is not an easy task for indian Man, but what a person can do if a spouse is not at all ready to concerned about any thing.

 

Regards

@author

if you apply for divorce, how will you prove her cruelty? first take care of that part.

then live separately.

by that time your 1 yr would be over

then consider filing for Divorce.

Dear Harsh,

Yesterday she scratches my for arm with her bangle, yesterday she went outside home at 12 in the mid night, she is very different kind of lady, i have never seen a girl like her, today no tea no breakfast has been prepared although its nt a big thing but it matters a lot some time we have hardly complete six month of our marriage, her parents are also aware off all the things but they are not taking any actions, they themselves are blaming on me, the good part is that my parents are staying separate in another state but for me things are getting worst day by day, when iam going to home after office hours instead of taking rest iahve to quarrel with her, i dont know i long it will go as my tolerance level is about to finish.

kindly suggest some one some effective advices.

 

regards

her parents should cooperate with you to mend her - if they are not willing to, it simply means they know her behavior very well and they  know she is not fit for a marriage.

Please check your PM. 

They are not at all co-operating, i have been telling these thing continously from a week bt they have not yet come to my place, and putting unnecessary blame on me.

 

Dear Harsh, u plz check ur PM

 

regards

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So actually what do you want?

Are you still sure that you want your wife back?

Na i dont want, 
 

I just wants way how to get rid off her

Na i dont want, 
 

I just wants way how to get rid off her