My practial advise to you is pl do not adopt the child....for adoptiion is irrevocable...in case of divorce with present spouse by any chance [God does not bring that situastion]...you cannot revoke the adoptiion...
but do not forget to give your love as a father to the child....
do not change the name your wife can give her decree of divorce in the passport office....
when the child grows up becomes matured,,,,you can take him into confidence...and make him undersrtand for not changinvg the name...
but pl do give the child love of father I am sure you will do that since i have observed in my 13 yrs of practice that men have
easily accepted the wife's earlier children but women do not
Anamika Vichare, Family Court lawyer
anamika_vichare@rediffmail.com
pl seek further advice by email i cannot give all the advises for want of confidentialiy and that no misuse is done