Cheating in a intimate relationship
Guest
(Querist) 13 June 2014
This query is : Resolved
i was in a relationship with a boy for 2years. he promised me to marry me. and he developed intimate relationship(not sex) with giving this false assurance of marraige. he aslo assured me that his parents are also ready to accept me. but for the last 6months he is totally ignoring me. and telling me he lost all his feelings and interest towards me. i am in helpless condition. i am mentally exhausted .he is cheating me, i doubt he is engaged with someone else. he is denying this fact. but i got some proof of his new relationship. what is the legal step I can take against this cheating boyfriend? please help me..
Nadeem Qureshi
(Expert) 13 June 2014
Dear Querist
if there is no physical relation with each other then you can file only a case of modesty.
Raj Kumar Makkad
(Expert) 13 June 2014
This is a fit case to file a police complaint against such person as making sexual relationship on the promise of marriage is a criminal offence. Immediately approach the local police within whose jurisdiction such act has taken place.
ajay sethi
(Expert) 13 June 2014
well it is always open for the boy or girl to change their mind . boy did not force you to have physical relation ship . if today boy is not interested in marrying you forget him . move on in life . no case of cheating is made out
R.K Nanda
(Expert) 13 June 2014
agree with sethi.
Guest
(Querist) 13 June 2014
he assured to marry me.he lied to me. he told me to believe his words. its obvious to any girl to believe his boyfriend's words. i have proof of those chats and msgs where he mention and assured me to marry. cause I clearly told him if we are going to marry with each other in future,and if our parents don't have any problem with our future decision regarding our marriage only then I will agree otherwise no physical relationship.
but he always used to tell me that i don't believe him,why i think negatively about him. in chats and msgs he assured me he will marry to me only.
i understand Mr.AJAY SETHI Sir what you are trying to say, i know anyone can change their mind. but he assured me he will never change his mind. if he is not interested in me now then their he should be a mutual understanding . I promised him if he can give a valid reason of this break up then I will forgive him. but never gave me any valid reason, being 2years in this relationship I deserve a valid reason for this break up and a mutual understanding. but he don't want to reply me. he is totally ignoring me. whenever he receives my call the only he is answering is "I have nothing to say, please don't call me".
Guest
(Querist) 13 June 2014
i never had intention to take legal step against him cause i loved him. but he forced me to do this. i thought he will give me valid reason of our break up all this will be done in mutual understanding, but he is always ignoring me. i am really shocked is that the same person with whom i was in a relationship for 2years. and he is behaving so rudely. i also told him at the time of break up,if he is looking for any other new girlfriend then clear it to me,i will forgive you, but he denied and lied also. cause i am getting some proofs of his new relationship.and the main fact is, we are in long distance relationship for last 1 year. and he is taking this advantage of long distance relationship to avoid and ignore me,and he thinks if he avoid me like this way I may not go to contact with him and all what he had done will be forgotten and forgiven by me.
Sankaranarayanan
(Expert) 13 June 2014
What you plan ? Are you like to force him marry you? If you force , then that marriage will lead the happy life? so better to leave away and find a good person and marry and lead happy life.
Guest
(Querist) 13 June 2014
i don't want to marry him. i want justice. i want to punish him only because what he had done to me. he is not that kind of person who deserve forgiveness. what about my feelings and emotions? what about my mental situation which distracted me from my study?
Guest
(Querist) 13 June 2014
thank you Mr. Sankar Narayanan Sir. please tell me what case I will file for him?
Guest
(Querist) 13 June 2014
please Sir reply.
Anirudh
(Expert) 13 June 2014
You say that in the two years of relationship there was no sexual relationship between both of you.
You say the he promised to marry you and now he is not willing to marry you.
When there has not been any sexual relationship, no offence is made out against the boy.
Therefore, you have no case at all. Even if you lodge a complaint you cannot succeed.
Therefore, forget and move on in life.
You should consider yourself lucky that he did not ditch you after marriage. So far so good.
At least now concentrate on your studies.
Guest
(Querist) 13 June 2014
Mr.Anirudh Sir,thanks for the comment.there was intimate physical relationship but not had any intercourse. we used to spend several times in his flat. i have photos of us together in his flat.
and also the chats and msgs where he mentioned me to marry. but Sir,I want to know only if there is a sexual relationship then anyone can file a case? otherwise there is no such law for us who are being cheated by their boyfriend? only because i don't have any sexual relationship with him,i can't file a case against him?? there is no punishment for him? what about my honesty and commitment for him?
if he is not cheating then why he ignoring me totally? why does he dont want to face me? is this not giving us the wrong intention of that boy?
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 13 June 2014
It would be better for you to forget him and move ahead in your life.
Guest
(Querist) 13 June 2014
if there is no such law against this kind of boy who used to broke the trust of his girlfriend in the name of love and in the promise of marriage then they will get another chance to cheat another girl.
I request to you all please don't overlook the whole matter only because we had no sexual intercourse.apart from that thing,there are so many things in a relationship like trust, commitment and also time which leads me to metal depression. my trust,my emotions are just a joke to him?
V R SHROFF
(Expert) 13 June 2014
iT HAPPENS WITH MAJORITY OF LOVE AFFAIRS.
SO ONE MUST NOT FALL IN LOVE.
MUST TRY TO RISE IN LOVE, do not fall.
THAT'S THE REASON, OLD HINDU CULTURE NEVER ALLOWED ANY LOVE AFFAIRS BEFORE MARRIAGE. THEY USED TO DEVELOP LOVE AFTER MARRIAGE.
Only friendly relation is OK, but must be without any affection or Love; Otherwise it harms one of the parties, Like you.
Any expectation from others invariably invite sadness in Life.
So better, never expect, never promise, or it will certainly result into unhappiness, Tension, deteriorate your health, disturbed mind, and so on.
Read few religious books, have a peace of mind. No revenge, no enmity. Just forget & Forgive. It's Life.
By keeping in heart those feelings will only bring stale, rotten , dirty smell, that you cannot tolerate, it never refresh your mind. It need to be cleaned and cleared out. SO FORGET.
Never expect anything from anybody.
"Vishwasghat tabhi hota hai, jaha vishwas hota hai" Do not trust other's words. it's are out of our control.
These bitter feelings remains only for maximum 6 months. It automatically vanish. So Time will heal your wounds, Do not touch it daily to renew your wound : sad feelings..
There are others, who had suffered 100 times more than you. Part of Life..
God is great,. You will realise after few years, whatever happened was best for you.
It was blessing, as you were honest, and God never wanted you to be in his hand lifetime.. He never deserved it.
OK
Raj Kumar Makkad
(Expert) 13 June 2014
In India marriage is a social contract.it can not be enforceble by any court of law.agreement or promise or love letters or affidavit does not having legal enforcement since it is a social contract.in this case the girl was cheated by the boy.cheating is an offence, for this the boy can be prosecuted under the provisions of indian penal code.but she is not having any legal remedy for her marriage with that boy.she is eligible for compensation but she is refusing it.her demand for marriage with that boy is not possible.even court can not enforce it.there is a lot of evidence for that she was promised and cheated and sustained much pain and wasted her valuable time with that boy.
Dr V. Nageswara Rao
(Expert) 13 June 2014
1. If you have proof that he promised to marry you, you can file a civil case for damages (compensation) for breach of promise to marry.
2. No court will ever compel him to marry you.
3.Perhaps, you are thinking of filing a criminal case against him. That is not possible.
4. Courts have often castigated girls who have got into intimate/sexual relations with boys prior to marriage.
4. So, better forget about the past and get on with your life.That is wiser option. Revenge is no option in your case.
Guest
(Querist) 13 June 2014
Mr.V R SHROFF SIR, Mr. RAJ KUMAR MAKKAD, Mr.V NAGESWARA RAO thanks to u all Sir.
it was possible to me to forgive him,when I asked him to tell me the truth. May be you are right Sir that TIME WILL HEAL MY WOUNDS,but if I keep quite and let him go without any punishment, my one silence will arise the more chances to repeat this same thing to another girl.he will never be able to know that cheating is an offence. he don't have any right to play with others life with that false assurances of marriage.
I never mentioned that I want to marry that boy. yes, i loved him,that's why I decided to forgive him,but there is no regret from his side for his disloyalty. he is denying all those responsibilities of our relationship.on the starting of our relationship he promised me whatever the situation will be,he will manage and will make his parents to accept us(i also have our chats regarding this topic). we both disclose our relationship to our parents.his parents and my parents knew about our relationship, from both side there was no objection with this love-relationship,both family never talked about us. but they only wanted when we both will get established they will allow marry us to marry. all these things are going seriously and everything was okay with us. after he went to long distance from me for his job,at first everything was okay like previous. but for the last 6months he is totally changed. now he is telling me different story that he was never have any interest about my life,he just knew me,but don't knew me personally. and now he lost all his feelings towards me. in this situation I don't want to marry this kind of cheater. and can't let my life be spoiled by this kind of person. i just want justice. he is not that person who deserve forgiveness cause he don't have any regret. my one silence will increase his chances of cheating to other girls also. he has to get idea what offence he had done.all I need is to punish him.. and nothing.
Dr V. Nageswara Rao
(Expert) 14 June 2014
This is a story we have been hearing from Dushyant and Sakuntala days--bhool gaya sab kuch, yaad nahi ab kuch. I am only saying FORGET not forgive. A sense of hurt will be there in you. Law cannot help the way you want---criminal case--no way.The Courts have repeatedly said that a girl who is old enough to do must be old enough to know.
Guest
(Querist) 14 June 2014
thank you Mr. NAGESWARA RAO Sir, i don't want to file criminal case. i have the proof where he promised me to marry,and also have the chat where we talked about our physical involvement, so I want to file civil case.
Raj Kumar Makkad
(Expert) 14 June 2014
Filing civil suit for damages is the only remedy available with you.
Advocate. Arunagiri
(Expert) 14 June 2014
What is that relief you want:-
do you want to punish him
do you want compensation
do you want any other relief?
ajay sethi
(Expert) 14 June 2014
madam filing civil suit for damages will entail court fees . in addition damages suit take over 15 years to be disposed of . hence we advised you to forget the boy and move on in life .
Guest
(Querist) 14 June 2014
i want to punish him.
Guest
(Expert) 14 June 2014
If the boy is refusing to marry you on the grounds of his or his parents demand of dowry,cash , jewels, property etc you could file a complaint and take action against him.
Anirudh
(Expert) 14 June 2014
BETTER BE AWARE, YOU CANNOT PUNISH HIM ON THESE FLIMSY GROUNDS, DURING YOUR LIFE TIME.
Guest
(Querist) 14 June 2014
Mr. N JS RAJKUMAR Sir Sorry sir, but you are getting wrong meaning of this total fact. I mentioned it that I doubt he is in a new relationship because I got some proof of his new relationship,for his new relationship he is totally ignoring me. Why don't he have any guts to face me,he never gave me any valid reason for this break up,we both developed physical relationship(not sexual intercourse)cause we knew that we will get married in near future, and our parents from both side never had any objection about our relationship.
ajay sethi
(Expert) 14 June 2014
ok we have advised you at length . it is your call now . do what you want
V R SHROFF
(Expert) 14 June 2014
FORGET, means FORGET EVERYTHING.
LIFE IS FULL OF CALCULATED RISKS.
ONE CAN'T SUCCEED EVERYWHERE.
Find out where you missed points that another girl could win.. Analyse inner concious of yours, and remove all dirty feelings, punishing etc .
Keeping bottom of your heart clean and healthy.
There are Lakhs of such incidences, and it will continue, as such relations are built up in dark, secretly, and when break, the public knows. Nobody disclose reasons.. It is his Private Life.Nobody knows motive, Intentions are clear and known.
So it cannot be stopped.
Every-one had to be aware, alert, and protect oneself. or fail and forget...
No revenge works.
just forget. and close the chapter here. BYE
Guest
(Expert) 14 June 2014
IAS aspirant demands arrest of Tamil Nadu cop for demanding dowry
CHENNAI: IAS aspirant G Priyadarshini, who lodged a dowry complaint against IPS officer Varum Kumar, met senior police officials at the commissionerate in Chennai on Thursday and urged them to arrest Kumar as the Supreme Court has rejected his anticipatory bail.
Varun Kumar is now an assistant superintendent of police in Arupukottai.
Accompanied by functionaries of the All India Democratic Women's Association (AIDWA), Priyadarshini met additional commissioner of police R S Nallasivam and submitted her complaint. Though the Supreme Court had rejected his bail plea five days ago, the police were yet to arrest him, she said.
Priyadarshini and Varun Kumar became friends when they were preparing for civil service exams. They wanted to get married. However, Kumar's family had started demanding dowry when he got IPS selection, she alleged.
The Chennai city police filed an FIR against Kumar in April 2012, nearly six months after Priyadarshini filed a complaint against him.
Raj Kumar Makkad
(Expert) 14 June 2014
@NJS Raj Kumar! Sir This is not an appropriate platform to post such information/news rather a separate head is available on this site wherein you can definitely post such items.
