Disturbed marriage
Ravi
(Querist) 12 September 2012
This query is : Resolved
I got married 1.5 yrs back. It's love-cum-arrange marriage, two of us equal in all respect. Me being PG doctor & wife being MBBS. We were in courtship 4 abt 5 yrs b4 mariage. Just b4 mrg, our relationship started deteriorating sharply with my 2-b-wife compelling me 4 immediate marriage OR threat of walk-out otherwise. I & my family gave in and we got married abt 1.5yrs bak.
I stayed in boys hostel at my college and she at girls hostel in same college until june this yr. she wud stay 2-3 days at my hostel every week. In june we shifted to delhi.
Over last 1.5 years our relationship has been mostly turbulent. she demoralises me continuosly---my achievement, family, friends, everything. She demeans everything which i do 4 her out of my sense of luv/responsibilty..her mothe constantly coaches her over phone..she has not the slightest emotional concern for me/my family/anything related to me.
she wants me to break my all relationship with my family/friend etc.
In delhi, initialy she shifted (we arranged it 4 her)to a girls hostel near her coaching classes to save time. I stayed at my elder brother's house(my father lives with him), who is unmarried and very close to me. she wud come 2-3 days at this house. About 1 month bak I shifted to boys hostel of my hospital.
Since then, my wife started insisting dat either i take her 2 my hostel(which i can't) OR else she wud go 2 her parents house in BIhar. I resisted and asked her to stay at her hostel until her exams in Nov/Dec. Abt, 1 week bak, she had a night-out with her cousin (i don't kno her nae, never met her)widout informing me. Yesterday she shifted out to some other place without informing me.
I must add, she has never ever cared 4 me, never ever made a cup of tea 4 me.
Over last few months, there's inreasing no of times she's insulting, defying me and when i confront, she wud start senseless arguements. she won't listen. now she says she won't tell me her address and wud never come home or go 2 my home town. She says she can meet outside if i want 2 discuss.
In a way, she has given me ultimatum 2 choose either her OR my family
please sugest,
1.I don't kno, where is our relationship headed
2. I am afraid, she can put us in dowry related cases.
3. I there any chance of saving dis mariage
4. wat sud i do save dis mariage
5. shud i file 4 divorce
please help
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 12 September 2012
So you are not staying togather. She has a right to stay togather.
Try to find reonciliation. No price is great for peace.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 18 September 2012
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