Divorce from my husband
Suparna jain
(Querist) 06 February 2014
This query is : Resolved
Sir/Madam,
I got married in 2007 by arya samaj marriage law. But after 2-3 month my husband was continuously harass me.I lived with him up to 4 year but in break. sometime with my in laws and some time with my mother house. But we are apart from 2 year . he is chain smoker, drinker, taking some other kind like addiction items. He is also torturing his family. but now we are apart and i am working with reputed organization as a CA. But now i want to take divorce from him. Can you all advise me what is the procedure and what should i do as for my first step because i don't think he give me voluntarily separation. please give me advise.Thanks for all
Rajesh Pareek
(Expert) 07 February 2014
First of all you think about your husbands good abilities which you like mostly before marriage to give a chance to your married life. If you think there is no possibility to give another chance you meet any advocate of your near Family Court and file as his advise.
malipeddi jaggarao
(Expert) 07 February 2014
You said that your marriage is performed in Arya Samaaj. This indicates it is a love marriage without the consent of the parents. You also said he is torturing his parents. Did you not find symptoms of such qualities when you are in love with him? Did you not know the fact that he is a smoker and drinker?
However, if you have come to a conclusion to break the marriage, you have to engage a local advocate for seeking divorce and maintenance.
If you take divorce, whether better life is assured for you? When it is a case of failure of love marriage what will be the fate of second marriage? Would like to stay singly for whole life? You have to be careful and assess the matter in its entirity.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 07 February 2014
If you feel that continuing of the present relationship has become quite burden for you and there is no hope of amicable settlement to remain unit, take help of a local lawyer and proceed for divorce.
Contested divorce may be lengthy process, explore possibility of mutual consent divorce.
ajay sethi
(Expert) 07 February 2014
contact a local lawyer and file for divorce
T. Kalaiselvan, Advocate
(Expert) 08 February 2014
If you have decided to not bear with his tortures any more and want to break the marital ties, you can file a divorce case against him as per law, for help, you may engage a local lawyer who will be able to do the needful.
Dr J C Vashista
(Expert) 08 February 2014
It is very easy to get out of the marriage institution but very difficult to maintain, which is the way of life and you will have to repent, if did not think again on the decision of divorce.
Suprana ji, being a follower of Jain dharma, you find it easy to marry in Arya Samaj marriage law implies it was your personal and not family decision. It is advised to reconsile with your husband, who has end-nubmer of weaknessess but your decision to marry him was based upon various virtues, qualities and better habits.
You are an educated lady, a professional persona(CA), just review your decision to divorce, prefer your marriage to the job (one of the reason for proping differences amongst both of you-as I guess).
Find out some counsellor or mediator to patch up, I can help you, if you are located in Delhi. My email is majjagdish@yahoo.com
