Dowry harassment and maintenance case
Guest
(Querist) 15 October 2014
This query is : Resolved
Dear sir,
Seeking your guidelines and help for the below case..!
I Mr. Sudhakar Completed B.tech degree and working as a Sr.Manager in reputed company. Recently I have been booked with the above subjected case please guide me further steps.
Brief about my story:
After my education i selected in campus interview and got good job, immediately after 1 year my uncle (my Mother's brother) asked my mother to marry her daughter with me and my mother forced me to marry her and i have accepted the same but in their home they have not asked my wife decision and forced her to marry me.
Naturally in mid days before marriage i got her phone number casually i wanted to chat with her to know each other to lead the life, but she always refused to talk me and she was not talking much with me but i had seen her from my child wood, she was so active and talking too much. I got doubt about her nature and started talking to her friends.
one fine day i saw her mobile sms chatings, where she was very close with her boyfriend and also they used to go to movie, temples, water world etc, i got these information from her friends.
I have started thinking -ve about her and started loving one of her friend and her friend also started loving me but i was unable to tell these things with my mother.
Since my uncle helped financially to my family and my studies from each Rupee to Rupee, I was unable to express my feelings in my home.
My self and my lover (my wife friend) came to an understanding that we should sacrifice our love and did the same.
I was forced to marry her, mean while my lover also married some other person.
Since i used travel very frequently in my job, i used to go home in weekends sat and Sunday and there was no chemistry happened between both of us and she took a promise that one year there should not be any physical contact and till now we don't have any baby after 3 years of marriage life. My wife boy friend used call her daily i was fed up with her behavior one fine day her boy fried called her at 11.30 PM. That day i have become reluctant and shouted on her, These things i have not shared with my mother and their family.
simultaneously i have started talking to my girlfriend, I heard very bad news from her that her husband and their family are torchering her and one more bad news that her husband was 2nd hand (i.e He was married a girl already and she died). by knowing this we both started meeting each other and one day she left her husband home without informing them and came to me.
That time i was not having any option and We have started a new life seperatly and we both got a girl child now in this January. since my lover is very close friend of my wife we went to her and disclosed everything but she was not accepting this type of relationship and spread-ed the news to her family and my family which we where not expected and people from my lover family got the news and started harassing us and after so many struggles finally my girl friend got divorce this month after giving so much of amount.
Now my wife don't want to leave with me and she filed a Dowry Harassment and maintenance case. I never asked dowry from her and i don't want to give her maintenance amount, If i give that she will leave her life single and she will apply crimal cases from my money because in their house her father also said "what ever happened is happened, go and leave with him, i will not support you to go court"..
I am not interested to give her divorce because of my mother and i am ready to leave with her. but my wife is saying "if you leave both that child and your girl friend, i leave with you, other wise i will not"..
This is my situation, Please suggest me further course of action.
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 15 October 2014
You can not keep two women at the same time and by accepting your girlfriend after marriage was not only your great folly but a potent source of hassles very soon.
You have to choose any women between the two and at a very fast pace.
In this situation you alone are solely responsible for this scenario and do not expect any sympathetic response from us.
Guest
(Querist) 15 October 2014
should i give divorce ?
Guest
(Querist) 15 October 2014
What is my next step ?
Guest
(Expert) 15 October 2014
Consult your Local Advocate and Narrate your Story and Seek the Solution.
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 15 October 2014
continue with your existing wife and shun your girlfriend.
ajay sethi
(Expert) 15 October 2014
you are married . you have no business in continuing relationship with your gf . ask your wife to forgive you and leave your gf . your wife will with draw cases filed by her on family pressure
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 15 October 2014
It would be better to continue with your first wife if she is ready to live and continue happy married life. Try to forget your girl friend.
