Approach for joint talks

kush (Querist) 17 March 2012 This query is : Resolved
Hi,
Girl side is calling us for discussion and they are indirectly telling us that they have spent huge amount of money in marriage. They are also telling us that we should think about the girl's future. They are also putting false allegations on us in e-mails and sending it to us. So far the matter has not gone to court but they are threatening us for consequences if the talk fails. In my case the girl did not come to my house even for a day and my marriage happened about 8 months back.
I have following query:
1) What happens in these kind of joint talks?
2) If they demand huge money then how to respond? Can we negotiate?
3) If they demand reasonable money then still can we negotiate there only.
4) How to approach in discussion, if they put false allegations on us that we have done haressment to the girl.
5)Shall we conclude about the money in the first discussion only?
6) I have taken the phone details of my wife through detective agency and found that she chats with some one whole night. I want to know that this thing can i bring out in joint talks?
7) Is it illegal to get the phone details of my wife (without her knowledge) through detective agency?

Regards,
Kush

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Shonee Kapoor (Expert) 17 March 2012
If the issue is not settled amicably the lawyers would be a wee bit richer.

The mutual discussion has to be taken for what they are. DISCUSSIONS.

Regards,

Shonee Kapoor
harassed.by.498a@gmail.com

Shonee Kapoor (Expert) 17 March 2012
It is not illegal to get the Call Details, but if you use them to threaten her, blackmail her etc. it would be a crime/

Regards,

Shonee Kapoor
harassed.by.498a@gmail.com

V R SHROFF (Expert) 17 March 2012
SETTLE BY NEGOTIATION IS BEST WAY TO BUY PEACE, & IS A FAST & SMOOTH WAY.

Involving those who arranged thius marriage can bring down the money demand, and can be justified.
In those meetings [say 4 times, if you report in second meeting indirectly the root cause[ she talk whole night to another boy, and will most probably marry him on divorce, you can save a lot of money.
Nothing wrong, investigating her phone call, she being your wife, and having matrimonial dispute, It is necessary for end of justice to know the naked truth.

Deepak Nair (Expert) 17 March 2012
I agree with teh advises of bothe the above experts.

Raj Kumar Makkad (Expert) 18 March 2012
It is better for you and your family to grasp this opportunity of negotiation and settle all the issues failing which you and your family may face great hardship of facing various court cases and police arrest etc.