how a men cn get divorce
deeksha
(Querist) 17 June 2015
This query is : Resolved
Hello.. Thr is a frnd of mine. He hs been marrried fr th pst 2years. Thy hv no child yet. Now he wnts to file divorce against his wife. As evrythng is gting on his nerves now. Acriding to medicl reports his sperm motils are vry low. Bt he is nt impotent. On th othr hand his wife also hs mny dieses like thyroiid etc. She also cnt concieve bcz tht.. Bt al th burdn is on my frnd tht he cnt be father. Tht social stigma is unbearble fr him to hndle now.. As his wife hs strtd mntly torturing him by givng hell mny medicines , visiting so much doctrs .... He hs almost lost his confidence bcz of tht only.... She has involved his fmly members also in torturing him .. It hs bcm almst a year tht thy both hvnt made sex as he jst dsnt wnt to see her so thr is no question arises to sleep wd hr... It hs become a mental torture fr him to be framed again n again as a impotent... Show us a way fr divorce.... As she is thretning him to go fr suicide if he wl file a divorce... She is a govt.teacher.. Earns more then him.. Kindly show us path wht should he cn do now to gt rid of this marriege... Thanku...
malipeddi jaggarao
(Expert) 18 June 2015
@Deeksha - R u male or female?
This is a purely personal problem of a couple and your interference is not warranted in the given circumstances in the thread.
1. They are married only for 2 years.
2. Not begetting children within two years should cause that much anxiety.
3. Within 2 years or marriage, generally nobody will rush to medical tests for not begetting children.
4. if sperm motiles are low, there is treatment available.
5. If his wife is suffering from thyroid, it is not that dangerous disease and should not be the sole cause for infertility.
6. If appears you want to make a counter attack on the girl by pointing out her health problems which are no way directly connected to infertility.
7. When the marriage took place only two years back, where is the question of social stigma on either side?
8. In one way you are narrating that his wife is torturing for visiting doctors and taking medicines, but on the other way you say that they did not have sex for more than a year. One cannot have children merely by visiting doctors and medicines. She also must be aware of this simple fact.
9. The wife does not want to go for divorce and she is a Government Doctor. Then what is the problem for your friend?
By the above analysis one can guess either you are hiding the facts, or interfering into the personal life of your friend. My sincere advice is leave the problem to the couple.
deeksha
(Querist) 18 June 2015
Thnku so much sir fr the advice.
deeksha
(Querist) 18 June 2015
N thnks fr letting me know tht 1. Hvu ng low motiles hs a tretmnt 2. Thyroid is NT such a big dieses.. Bt I mst tell u thht evryone know about it.. It is jst doctrs r saying that on one side he is not capabl n on other side she as well bcz of her diseas is nt able to conceive... This is said by doctrs not by me Sir... N off course thy also know about it n thy hv went through th tretmnt...
Th point is only he is has become so much mntlly harrased bcz of th tag of being a impotent by his wife... N visiting evry time a new doctr new medicines... He is a childhood frnd of mine n he has told me all this not I ws th one who asked him... N he told me all this bcz I m his frnd fr years (if u undrstnd tht there cn be simpl frndship also btwn a men n women) ...
He is loosing his confidence bcz of all this that is hpniig in his family... He is loosing hs hope in marriege as well.. He is so mch In tension that he dsnt want evn a child now... N he is being harrased bcz of thhis daily.. She is saying she will go fr suicide if he will not continue wd his treatment... Does he has no right on his own sperms... Yes that is his prsnl problm but he is just nt abl to handl this as hiis wife is in a rush for a child....
Thy r not hving sex frm th last one year as thy both dnt live together.. As she is a Gov't. TEACHER NOT A DOCTOR.. N her posting is in her hometown.... N what could I hide frm u sir...
N yes anyone cn guess it by my name that i m a FEMALE.. sir...
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 18 June 2015
Please post your query in plain english and not in SMS language / your code language.
deeksha
(Querist) 18 June 2015
Thnk you goyal sir for your revert. I just wanted to ask you whether there is a way out for my friend. You must have gone through the query. N sorry for the language. He does not want to live with his wife now. As she is querrling with him every day for a child.. They have gone through many treatments.. It has proved from that he has low mortile so there will be problms in infertility.. Now there is a tag of impotency is stuck with him and he is just not balancing his life because of that.. He does not want to go for doctors now or take any medicines but his wife is forcing her .. She is saying that she will do suicide if he will not go further for the treatment.. The querrel between both of them has increased so much thhat he dsnt want to even sleep with her.. They both don't live together... She is a govt.teacher. Her posting is in her parents town..
I was just asking is there any way out for him to come out of this relation.. Thank you so much sir..
malipeddi jaggarao
(Expert) 18 June 2015
Once a problem is detected, if the spouse forces for treatment, I do not find any wrong in it. As far as I know, thyroid is not a sole for conceiving. Your question that "does he has no right on his sperm" - what do you mean by this? The girl might be over-reacting, but at the same time, it is for the husband to instill confidence in her. You should thank that girl that she is not going for divorce on the ground of impotency and still pursuing the husband to take treatment. If you are really interested in your friend, counsel him properly that nothing is wrong perhaps except over-acting by both. He should also cooperate, find out the real reason if at all not having children and get proper treatment either to him or to her. The last sentence of your query clearly asking the remedy for getting rid of the marriage. Basing on the facts given by you, it is not easy to get rid of the marriage and he will face lot of trouble in his life. Rather she can get him rid of, if she wishes, on the ground of impotency. If he entertains this idea, he will have to face DV, Maintenance and Criminal cases and it is very difficult to come out of the mess in a short span. Even if he succeeds, will he get a better partner with a stamp of impotency on his face? Do not be hurry. Real friends try to find amicable solutions, not hasty suggestions.
deeksha
(Querist) 18 June 2015
Thank u so very much sir.. 😊 but that was not my idea but his to get out this marriege.. Thanks again..
Dr J C Vashista
(Expert) 21 June 2015
Cn't folo sms lng n rly;
Write proper English words, if you want some reply/opinion/ advise.
