Cheating husband
yuvarani.M
(Querist) 22 June 2013
This query is : Resolved
Dear Experts,
Your advice is much appreciated.Am an hindu girl married to a muslim through spl marriage act.My husband made me to let my frns and family members know abt our marriage but he has not disclosed about our marriage to any of his relatives and frns except his parents.His paretns now wanted to file a false divorce case to free him from me and get him married fresh since nobody from his side know abt our marriage.I tried my best to save my marriage i want to let his family and frns know about our marriage so that my in laws cannot take an advantage of my helplessness... is there anyway to disclose our marriage to his relatives without going to press and media... please may i request your reply asap as am totally exhausted now.
Advocate M.Bhadra
(Expert) 22 June 2013
If your husband would file a Divorce Suit then you should file a Written Statement for objection and also claim of alimony.
yuvarani.M
(Querist) 22 June 2013
Sir is der any way that I cud let his family members and his community know abt our marriage he wanted to divorce me secretly and get ready for a new marriage in a yr or two
yuvarani.M
(Querist) 22 June 2013
He is determined to divorce me.
Advocate M.Bhadra
(Expert) 22 June 2013
If your marriage is concerned under Special Marriage Act,then without decree of a competent court your marriage can not be dissolved.
yuvarani.M
(Querist) 22 June 2013
Sorry sir,Could you please make me understand what decree of competent court is about and under dis will i be able to make people know that we both got married and he is my husband.
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 22 June 2013
You can send a copy of marriage certificate to everyone concerned whom you wish to let know about your marriage.
You can file suit for restitution of conjugal rights to restore your marital life through legal means.
yuvarani.M
(Querist) 22 June 2013
Thank you very much sir me and my parents are planning to mail de marriage certificate to all his relatives but we are scared that it might turn out to be mental cruelty againts him and his family and that hewould get a strong ground for divorce.
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 22 June 2013
This would not be a case of mental cruelty. Your apprehension is totally misdirected.
yuvarani.M
(Querist) 23 June 2013
Sir if in case I have to file dv against him coz I underwent serious torture by him and his parents and we are separated for 3 months and no comminication between us. I resigned my software job and ofcourse spoiled my whole life he took me as advantage and misguiding me to abide by muslim law so that he cud give talaaq and marry another muslim women.i dont think that even in court I cannot get him and his love back he is totally changed in his behaviour.all that I want is to let his people know tat he s married coz he wanted to hide our marriage and pretend to be very gud muslim.pls guide me if my intention is wrong.thank you sir.
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 23 June 2013
On one side you are serious about getting him and then asking for DV CASE.
First make up your mind and then ask for our advice.
You can always explore legal rights and your intention is never questioned if you file a case for enforcement of your legal rights.
yuvarani.M
(Querist) 23 June 2013
Sir I tried all means to live wit him but he filed a divorce case and his lawer is also a muslim so all his parwnts advocate and hehimself threaten me to convert I even gone ro the extent of begging on his legs for my future he doesnt want all these emotional aspects he wants divorce so I have decided I cannot get him back and am not interested in money settlement all I need is justice o had been very true to him and satisfied him as his loving wife but his father has brainwashed him about religion and family..now beforw leaving him I wanr to let his family and friends know that he ismmarket married and am his wife.
prabhakar singh
(Expert) 23 June 2013
When he is at war with you now.why are you still emotional?File DV case when he and his parents have tortured you .
The publicity of marriage made in one way or the other among his relatives and friends is not going to pay any bigger yield because they all are made of similar hard skin and in practice they all are found pro-religion and not pro-human.
V R SHROFF
(Expert) 23 June 2013
Agreed with Shri Barman " First make up your mind and then ask for our advice."
VERY IMPORTANT POINT IS :
u SAID "He is determined to divorce me""he wanted to divorce me secretly and get ready for a new marriage in a yr or two"
BEING MUSLIM , He do not need Divorce for a new marriage "
So I can't digest your story
Either DV, or enter his house and live with his family : Directly.
Take help of Protection Officer of your District & file DIR Report if feel unsafe.
prabhakar singh
(Expert) 23 June 2013
Dear Shri V R SHROFF !
As you stated"So I can't digest your story "
BUT I REQUEST YOU TO DIGEST AS MALE OF THIS CASE IS MUSLIM BUT QUERIST FEMALE IS HINDU
AND THE MARRIAGE WAS SOLEMNIZED UNDER SPECIAL MARRIAGE ACT.
DID NOT YOU READ QUERIST POST WHICH BEGINS
WITH WORDS "Am an hindu girl married to a muslim through spl marriage act."
AND IN HER LATER POST WHERE SHE SAYS"Sir I tried all means to live with him but he filed a divorce case and his lawyer is also a muslim so all his parents advocate and he himself threaten me to convert"
I read all.
V R SHROFF
(Expert) 23 June 2013
Yes, Shri Prabhakarji,
As discussions were too long, I do read superficially, assuming, she was converted to Muslim, and Muslim Law Apply,and under the circumstances, What prevent him Nikah a Muslim girl, under Islamic law?? as Muslim Law will apply to Boy.
Thanks for correction, I overlook in hurry.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 23 June 2013
your query is half imaginary.
You can let anyone in the world that you are wife of so and so you can even publish marriage certificate in paper. You can put it on facebook.
If you do not want press and medial to involve you can hire a day taxi and visit each of his relative and deliver copy of marriage certificate. It is not at all a mental cruelty if you publish fact of marriage rather hiding marriage with you is cruelty.
One one side you side your in-laws do not know about the marriage and on other hand you know they want divorce.
He cannot divorce you secretly as you are not wedded as per Islamic rituals. You are Spl Marriage Act case.
You in-laws after seeing the DV Act procedure will keep quite. None likes being in Jail.
yuvarani.M
(Querist) 23 June 2013
Thank you very much for the advice Sir.Actually my in laws knows abt our marriage and their interference only created problem between me and my husband.my apology if I had missed it out to mention.father in law s threatening me that he would do anything to spoil my name and life I also have a recorded proof for this threat. My husband also behaves like psycho at times I kept quiet all these days to save my marriage.but now I have made up my mind instead of being a victim I want to fight against this injustice.i will proceed as per de advice given.
ajay sethi
(Expert) 23 June 2013
file police complaint against your father in law if he has threatened you .
2) you have stated that your husabnd wants to divorce you . if he files petition for divorce contest the divorce proceedings . file petition for RCR
3) claim maintenance , right to stay in shared household .under DV act .
Raj Kumar Makkad
(Expert) 23 June 2013
The marriage you performed is practically called a 'Love jehad' well defined by Kerala High Court wherein Muslim youth do similar type of marriages with Hindu girls by showing their immense love towards that girl and after some time of marriage, the pressure for her conversion to Islam is given by all family members of husband as is seen in the given case.
It is better to get rid of such person and find out future in the same religion you possess.
yuvarani.M
(Querist) 23 June 2013
why am i asked to call by expert Mohammed Ali.
Dr. Jyothi Vishwanath
(Expert) 24 June 2013
Your husband wants to divorce you and you feel that he will not never return back to you then just wait and watch for his next step as he is desperate for some decision. If you have no kids, then better take divorce and settle again in life than running after him. If he wants divorce, then it is useless to run after him either to get him back or to teach him a lesson.
yuvarani.M
(Querist) 27 June 2013
Sir,i have posted my marriage certificate in FB and now i keep getting threatening calls from his family saying that they will sue me.Should i remove it from FB.
ajay sethi
(Expert) 27 June 2013
record the calls . lodge police complaint against person giving the calls
yuvarani.M
(Querist) 27 June 2013
Thanks a lot sir.... experts advice are helping me to gain confidence and fight injustice... his friend also threatened that they will file a criminal case against me.
ajay sethi
(Expert) 27 June 2013
thanks for your appreciation
yuvarani.M
(Querist) 28 June 2013
Sir i posted my marriage proof in face book but they have disabled my account... pls help
yuvarani.M
(Querist) 28 June 2013
Account was disabled by my husband
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 29 June 2013
you have made no false claim. You are his wife (as on now) and want to claim such status. No suit can be filed against you for publishing fact of this marriage as long as it is not dissolved.
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 06 July 2013
No one except facebook can block your account. Complaint to police or facebook against this.
yuvarani.M
(Querist) 06 July 2013
Sir is it possible tat my husband can contact fb to disable my account.
