Divorce enquiry
Siddharth
(Querist) 29 November 2013
This query is : Resolved
I am staying in Qatar from last 3months with my husband and kids. Because of his harrassments i want seperation from him. I am house wife i dont hv money to hire a laywer so how can i get justice? I dont want any alumni from husband i want only my kids they are ready to stay with me even my husband also ready for it. so what i hv to do i am not understanding and my husband is threating me if i take divorce or apply for divorce he will suicide himself what to do my position is i cant die because of my kids or live because of my husband,
Guest
(Expert) 29 November 2013
First both of you attend Counselling nearby and then could decide.Please dont break a family so easy.
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 29 November 2013
If you want your children only then just take a flight and come back to India. It does not take more than six hours to reach any part of India from there.
Where is the complication?
Siddharth
(Querist) 30 November 2013
Its been long 14yrs I am adjusting myself only because of my kids, but there is a limit to every person. If a well educated person manager level guy behaves like an uneducated person then what should be done? He (husband)is thinking me like an animal beating me like an animal how many years i hv to tolerate? he is 43yrs, myself 39yrs our age is going in older generation now also he is beating in front of my kids then how can i manage? We both did not hv any other affairs only family matters i tried so many times explaining him but instead of understaning me he gets angry. Not only with me behaves like this but with my sons also. Devajypti Barman sir i am not earning if i want to come to India i hv to inform my husband and he vl not send me. Narsimah sir i spoke to one lawyer he is telling me to file Divorce Petition he had given an appointment for consultative meeting i vl see to it on Monday.
Guest
(Expert) 30 November 2013
If Your problem is only money to come back to India Meet the nearest Indian Embassy or there are several Indian associations Meet them they will Definitely Assist you.Be sure they might even take steps against your husband.Take the advise of your advocate.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 30 November 2013
Probably your husband may be suffering from office or other tension and this behavior with you may be result of other tension, in spite of co-operation, your attitude may be increasing his tension.
For coming back to India you may take help of Indian Embassy.
Siddharth
(Querist) 30 November 2013
I know sir he is suffering from office tension and also he is suffering from his health but he should also understand that his family is also impt. He is not giving his time to me or my my kids. Just cmg from office sitting on laptop is not family life! I am fed up sitting lonely daily 12hrs. Here u cant go out without my husbands help he even not allowing me to work my duty is just cuk do household work and sit at home like a statue till they cme hme. After cmg hme no disscussions nothing just sitting on laptop. I hv to wait staring him now he vl take me out. After reading all news, commenting, he gets time in the night. On friday his hvg holiday he wants to rest. Daily he is working only halfday. So daily he is resting so wen he was tired?if i say anything he starts fighting with me if i say in return anything he starts beating me. This is not life. I hv to depend on him for little little things. I am feeling like a bird in a cage.
T. Kalaiselvan, Advocate
(Expert) 30 November 2013
As advised by experts, start living separately from your husband for a little wile say around 6 months or so, if he realizes your absence and his mistakes, requesting you to rejoin him and continue the married life with him, on the basis of a few assurances from him, if you are satisfied that he he has changed himself, you may join him back or look for an occupation in India as per your qualification, settle down ad start a fresh life for the sake of the future and career of your children. You should not take it lying low always just for the sake of not breaking matrimonial home, if the said home is hostile to you, you may decide about abandoning it. But, please think twice or more before taking any hasty steps.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 30 November 2013
If you feel that your husband is under work pressure and under tension, it is better to co-operate him now. Things will improve drastically if you start to look the things from his angle also. Legal steps can be initiated any time, but these steps would not finish your miseries, loneliness etc.
You can try to live separate in the installment of one month after each month.
