Dowry harassment
veena
(Querist) 03 November 2014
This query is : Resolved
I've been married for 10 years and have 2 kids. I am very sentimental and soft hearted. I have elder sister whose first marriage ended up in divorce (mutual agreement / without compensation as we wanted to get rid of that guy). She is happily married from past 9 years and have 2 kids. My husband and his family took advantage of this and mentally tortured me. As a result i lost my first child one week before delivery. I had government job out of which these people used as an added advantage. very cleverly they used my husband against me to bare my own maintenance from my salary as well as for their monthly home expenditure. my husband asked me to take a loan from my office which i paid from my salary (I have bank statement). in that period only my sister-in-law purchased a new house and at the same time my father-in-law (who was still working after retirement) made a loan of Rs.45000/-. My father-in-law had a tendency to gift Rs.5000 in the year 2005 on her birthday and to her family, where my salary itself at that time was 7000/-. They hided my husband's bad habits and financial problems (he had nothing but a loan of Rs.5 lakhs before marrige). My sister-in-law (gift lover) and her husband, my brother-in-law and his wife regardless after taking use from me allways supported my husband in all his bad decisions and torture. when i openly asked help from all these people they proved myself in all these and spread bad roumers about me in relatives. After my in-laws death my husband who was rude to me by his behavior and bad words and doubting nature and had bad drinking habit and gutka, started troubling me so badly that at the end of every discussions we had he used to tell me to leave him (last 1 year). All these 9 years went in making me realise i am not a suitable pair for him, i am imperfect, i am ugly, i am not his choice, i have a biological problems etc. Seeing my father's condition in society and family after my sister's divorce, i took a challange to change my husband's thinking about me. I gave up my govt. job and tried helping him mentally and financially. He openly told me to leave him as he doesn't want to take the blame, and when i resisted he started brainwashing my kids. I have suffered for 10 long years, now he is making my kids mental, i came out of the house and my parents supported me. I am totally blank, i am 37 year old without any financial support. my father is a retired person is on pension. my brother and my father are supporting me. I want one time settlement as i don't trust my husband if i opt for monthly maintenance from my husband's salary. what type of case should i opt for so that i can get one time settlement? I have lost my health (at the age of 36 i was diagnosed B.P. and Sugar) mental as well as physical. 10 years of untold sufferings that too without right compensation for my kids who are innocent will be unfair. Please suggest me what to do and how to do?
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 03 November 2014
I've been married for 10 years and have 2 kids. I am very sentimental and soft hearted.
THAT IS THE REASON FOR MOST OF THE WOMAN TO BE VOLUNTEER OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND DOWRY HARASSMENT
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 03 November 2014
I have elder sister whose first marriage ended up in divorce (mutual agreement / without compensation as we wanted to get rid of that guy). She is happily married from past 9 years and have 2 kids. My husband and his family took advantage of this and mentally tortured me.
As a result i lost my first child one week before delivery.
DIVORCE OF YOUR SISTER WAS NOT GROUND OF MENTAL TORTURE. YOU GOT TORTURED ONLY BECAUSE YOU WANT TO BE TORTURED. YOU FAILED TO REACT SHARPLY AND VIOLENTLY ON FIRST TAUNT.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 03 November 2014
I had government job out of which these people used as an added advantage. very cleverly they used my husband against me to bare my own maintenance from my salary as well as for their monthly home expenditure.
THEY WERE ABLE TO SNATCH YOUR SALARY ONLY BECAUSE YOU WANTED IT TO BE SNATCHED.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 03 November 2014
my husband asked me to take a loan from my office which i paid from my salary (I have bank statement). in that period only my sister-in-law purchased a new house
YOU HAVE NOT BEEN ABLE TO EXPLAIN THE NEXUS BETWEEN HOUSE OF YOUR SISTER-IN-LAW AND
IF THE LOAN WAS TAKEN FOR SISTER-IN-LAWS HOUSE WHICH REASON DID YOU STATE.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 03 November 2014
and at the same time my father-in-law (who was still working after retirement) made a loan of Rs.45000/-. My father-in-law had a tendency to gift Rs.5000 in the year 2005 on her birthday and to her family, where my salary itself at that time was 7000/-.
YOU ARE NOT ABLE TO EXPLAIN FACTS CLEARLY
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 03 November 2014
They hided my husband's bad habits and financial problems (he had nothing but a loan of Rs.5 lakhs before marrige).
WHAT DID YOU DO WHEN YOU DISCOVERED THE FACTS, OTHER THAT SURRENDER TO TORTURE
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 03 November 2014
My sister-in-law (gift lover) and her husband, my brother-in-law and his wife regardless after taking use from me allways supported my husband in all his bad decisions and torture.
SO WHO ELSE IS TO BLAME OTHER THAN YOU
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 03 November 2014
when i openly asked help from all these people they proved myself in all these and spread bad roumers about me in relatives.
NOT CLEAR WHAT YOU MEAN
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 03 November 2014
After my in-laws death my husband who was rude to me by his behavior and bad words and doubting nature and had bad drinking habit and gutka, started troubling me so badly that at the end of every discussions we had he used to tell me to leave him (last 1 year).
SO YOU KEPT ON TOLERATING
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 03 November 2014
All these 9 years went in making me realise i am not a suitable pair for him, i am imperfect, i am ugly, i am not his choice, i have a biological problems etc.
NEITHER YOU COULD CHANGE HIM NOR HE COULD CHANGE YOUR THINIKING. HE TIRED HIS BEST TO CONVINCE YOU THAT HE DESERVES NO SYMPATHY BUT FAILED.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 03 November 2014
Seeing my father's condition in society and family after my sister's divorce, i took a challange to change my husband's thinking about me. I gave up my govt. job and tried helping him mentally and financially.
COULD YOU NOT TAKE A MORE STUPID DECISION IN LIFE.
COULD YOU NOT BE MORE CRUEL TO YOUR FATHER.
HOW COULD YOU THINK THAT YOU COULD FINANCIALLY HELP ANYONE AFTER GIVING UP GOVT JOB.
COULD YOU REALISE THAT LEAVING GOVT JOB WOULD LEAVE YOU AT THE ALMS OF OTHERS WHEN HUSBAND DOES NOT SUPPORT YOU.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 03 November 2014
He openly told me to leave him as he doesn't want to take the blame, and when i resisted he started brainwashing my kids. I have suffered for 10 long years, now he is making my kids mental, i came out of the house and my parents supported me.
I am totally blank, i am 37 year old without any financial support. my father is a retired person is on pension. my brother and my father are supporting me.
SO BY LEAVING JOB YOU HAD BEEN CRUEL TO YOUR FATHER AND BROTHER INSTEAD OF TAKING CONCRETE ACTION IN YOUR MARRIAGE
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 03 November 2014
I want one time settlement as i don't trust my husband if i opt for monthly maintenance from my husband's salary. what type of case should i opt for so that i can get one time settlement?
YOU HAVE AFTER LEAVING GOVT JOB STARTED SUCKING FATHER AND BROTHER INSTEAD OF FINDING ANOTHER JOB .
BUT SHABASH YOU HAVE NOT UTTERED EVEN A SINGLE WORD IN YOUR BLOG ABOUT HUSBAND’S INCOME AND PROFESSION.
AT THE BACK OF MIND YOU TILL WANT HIS MONEY TO BE SAFE WITH HIM SO THAT YOU CAN JOIN HIM LATER.
SO YOU ALREADY HAD ONE TIME (AND ONE POINT) SETTLEMENT WITH YOUR HUSBAND. MAXIMUM JOY FOR HIM AND MAXIMUM TROUBLE TO YOUR FATHER AND BROTHER.
GOOD
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 03 November 2014
I have lost my health (at the age of 36 i was diagnosed B.P. and Sugar) mental as well as physical. 10 years of untold sufferings that too without right compensation for my kids who are innocent will be unfair.
WHO IS TO BLAME FOR THIS OTHER THAN YOU
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 03 November 2014
Please suggest me what to do and how to do?
ABSOLUTELY NO USE ADVISING YOU ANYTHING. EVEN IF YOU ARE ADVISED YOU WILL NOT ACT.
WOMEN LIKE YOU DO LIKE TORTURE BETTER THAN ANYTHING ELSE IN THE WORD.
YOU WILL NOT TAKE ANY ACTION AS LONG AS IT IS NOT FINANCIALLY BENEFICIAL TO YOUR HUSBAND
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 03 November 2014
You are not so simple as you present to be.
YOU ARE SO CLEVERLY INCLINED IN FAOUR OF YOUR HUSBAND.
THAT YOU HAD NAMED BLOG AS “DOWRY DEMAND” BUT THROUGHOUT IN YOUR LONG NARRATIVE HAS NOT USED EVEN A SINGLE WORD THAT COULD SUGGEST DOWRY DEMAND AS A MOTIVE OF TORTURE.
YOU ARE STRONGEST DEFENCE WITNESS OF YOUR HUSBAND.
veena
(Querist) 03 November 2014
thank u for ur suggestions sir. i may be my own enemy for last 10 years, but now plz guide me how to go legally. becoz i didn't kept quiet in the beginning, when questioned they promised me that they will change and for some period they were quiet also. then i lost my first baby later on i was totally shattered, that my concentration totally got focused on loss of baby and nothing else. that is my past. please suggest for the present.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 03 November 2014
ABSOLUTELY NO USE ADVISING YOU ANYTHING. EVEN IF YOU ARE ADVISED YOU WILL NOT ACT.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 03 November 2014
BUT THROUGHOUT IN YOUR LONG NARRATIVE HAS NOT USED EVEN A SINGLE WORD THAT COULD SUGGEST DOWRY DEMAND AS A MOTIVE OF TORTURE
Guest
(Expert) 03 November 2014
Well Advised by above Expert .You Please Consult and Proceed with the help of Local Good Advocate.You could also approach Free Legal Aid Women's Forum available in all the Courts.All the Best.
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 06 November 2014
Consult local lawyer or apply in Legal Aid Services Authority.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 07 November 2014
Your wordings indicate that you are very kind and charitable to your husband ( and none else).
People like you do not adhere to free advise. So no point wasting time on your case.
Moreover a person who can quit govt job to boost financial status cannot be advised by anyone.
Better pay a lawyer and get his advise.
Guest
(Expert) 10 December 2014
Well advised by Experts
Anirudh
(Expert) 10 December 2014
ANOTHER FRAUD BY THIS FELLOW!
HE HAS ALREADY MADE SUCH ENDORSEMENT A MONTH AGO.
JUST TO SHOW THAT HE IS ATTENDING TO QUERIES, HE IS DOING THIS TAMASHA.
This fellow cannot even be a last person one can consult for any advice.
This fellow is good for nothing. Many a times he gives advices which are not supported by law.
TAKE THIS FELLOWS FALSITY IN HIS PROFILE. THIS FELLOW ATTACHES MORE IMPORTANCE TO THE PROFILE, WHILE HE IS FILLING UP TOTAL FALSE HOOD IN HIS PROFILE.
please visit the following link:
http://www.lawyersclubindia.com/lawyers_search/N-J-S-Rajkumar-alias-narasimha-254519.asp#.VIcRwmeHPFx
where he claims that he is practising from 2001, while as already indicated by me, he was enrolled only in the year 2012!!! CAN ANYBODY PRACTICE BEFORE ENROLMENT? IF ONE DOES SUCH A PRACTICE IS HE NOT FIT TO BE CALLED A "FRAUD"?
N.J.S.Rajkumar alias narasimha's Details
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Therefore, before taking advice, the querist should be too careful
Ms.Usha Kapoor
(Expert) 18 June 2018
Agree with Anirudh and other experts.
