Moving out of parents' home
sutapa sarkar
(Querist) 06 April 2012
This query is : Resolved
I am 26 yrs old(female) and a school teacher.I live with my parents.But now I want to live separate with my boy friend in a live-in relationship.My parents are denying to give me all my academic certificates(i.e certificates of madhyamik,H.S,college,university etc.),their logic is that ,they bore all the expenses of my study,so I have no right on that certificates.Have they any right to do so?if they do this how can I get back those certificates?
Raj Kumar Makkad
(Expert) 06 April 2012
You have every right to retain and take back those certificates but this is not the basic issue which you are raising. Your parents are not happy with your decision to live in relationship. Either you convince them or be convinced.
The concept of live in relationship do not suit Indian society so try to live in permanent relationship by marrying with a person of your choice.
Nadeem Qureshi
(Expert) 06 April 2012
Dear Querist
no, they have no right on that certificate, you can file an application before court or concerened SDM u/s 93 Crpc to get search warrant to recovery these documents.
feel free to call
ajay sethi
(Expert) 06 April 2012
your parents are your well wiahers . they must be having dreams that daughter they brought up so lovingly , educated her
should marry and be well settled in life .
by refusing to marry and instead going in for live in relation ship you have shattered their drems . they hope by clinging on your certificates you will see reason .
even if you opt for live in relation ship you will laways have a guilt feeling of having dashed your parents hopes and expectations .
Deepak Nair
(Expert) 06 April 2012
Live in relations are legally not wrong.
You can go with your live in partner and nobody can deter you.
Live in relations are one of the way to enjoy physical relation without any any social and family bonds. This is just for lust and not for love. You are free to change partners whenever you wish as there are no strings attched.
Anyways, since you have decided to go ahead, you can do so. You can send a legal notice through a lawyer demanding your certificates. You have another option to file a criminal complaint with the police against your parents for illegally holding your certificates.
Your parents shall be tought a lesson for loving you and bringing you up and making you capable of taking decisions.
V R SHROFF
(Expert) 06 April 2012
"Your parents shall be tought a lesson for loving you and bringing you up and making you capable of taking decisions."
Very nice Dear Deepak,
And Sutapa, Get Married, Why go for such thing that society and parents disapprove??
Shonee Kapoor
(Expert) 06 April 2012
Though you can get the same legally, why don't you just sort out the differences with your parents. They are your well-wishers.
Maybe they want you to marry this guy, as to no matter how progressive the society is, live-in is still not accepted socially.
Regards,
Shonee Kapoor
harassed.by.498a@gmail.com
Sankaranarayanan
(Expert) 06 April 2012
i agreed with mr makkd the reason of kept the certificate is not because of their bound expenses for study, moreover it means they need you to go for leading good life, better you have to convince them and accept to marry and lead the happy marriage
prabhakar singh
(Expert) 06 April 2012
So it is in continuation of the earlier one.
Legally speaking your parents do not have any right over your certificate as expenses incurred by them in bringing you up was their social and legal duty.Simultaneously you too have a social and legal duty towards them.Socially to obey them and legally to maintain them.
Live in relationship is still unrecognized concept and is seen to be an unhealthy social practice.Do you have an other view to justify your option.Do not get wiped out by young-hood waives,else in days to come you may feel sorry for your decision but then it would be too late.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 07 April 2012
Live in relationis not legally wrong as some experts believe.
Bear in mind you are teacher by profession which requires a high degree of morality (not as per your definition but as expected of average society compirsing of the parents of children who you teach) in case your employer decides to sack you (certain in case of Govt school) when reported to them then you may not have a remedy. It may be least likely to convince any court to allow a person having live-in relationship to teach young children who see their teachers as a model in the life.
Live-in relationship may not be a sin but it is big sin to society to keep such person in teaching job.
The said boy friend will be the first person to ditch you.
So where these certificates will lead you.
parents are not so badly hurt if their daughter gets divorce from unsuccessful marriage.
Deepak Nair
(Expert) 07 April 2012
Mr.Sudhir spoke my heart out.
RAJU O.F.,
(Expert) 07 April 2012
If you want only the certificates, then you may apply for duplicates to the concerned authorities. If you want advice on your proposed live-in-relationship (not marriage), then my sincere advise would be to avoid such disastrous decision. Usually we get lot of queries from such separated couples.
