Disturbence
Malay Bhattacharya
(Querist) 14 June 2014
This query is : Resolved
I have been married for 18 years and have a son of 14 years of age,giving School Final in 2015.
I am 47 years old want to lead normal life like other but my only bother in law is a govt service holder and gives them money now and then and he ( my brother in law ) does not want to get married , now he is 39 years old. Once my wife goes to her fother's in law's house, she does not come back in a normal manner.
My brother in law neither to get married nor giving peaceful relation. He wants to keep his sister in his house also with my son.
I am limited earned person, unable to expense a lot like my brother in law.I also love my family.
I am facing a lot problem since long.
Please advise what to do.
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 14 June 2014
How long your wife has been with her brother?
If it is not more than few days then it is fine as far s legal dispute is concerned.
But if months have passed or is going to pass before she is cajoled to come back , a dispute is looming is large.
Either keep your wife away from her brother or file RCR so any complaint if lodged against you may be met promptly with ease.
Dr J C Vashista
(Expert) 15 June 2014
Settle the matter with your wife, once for all to stay either side and not both.
You will have to take a harsh decision.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 15 June 2014
Since your Brother in law is unmarried, your wife may be having soft corner for him. Matter may not be associated purely to financial help, it may be having emotional touch also.
Try to adjust, talk your nears and dears for amicable solution.
You can adopt legal recourse any time which in turn would not give peace in life, but may break the marriage.
Guest
(Expert) 15 June 2014
well advised by experts
R.K Nanda
(Expert) 15 June 2014
no more to add.
ajay sethi
(Expert) 15 June 2014
talk to your brother in law that you dont mind your wife visiting him once in 6 months and staying with him for a fortnight or so . however frequent and long periods of absence will disrupt your son studies and your marital life .
Laxmi Kant Joshi
(Expert) 15 June 2014
Well advised by The experts don't make unnecessary issues with your wife , solve your problem amicably with her .
Biswanath Roy
(Expert) 15 June 2014
In my long practicing life I conducted a good number of matrimonial cases and dealt with varieties of grievances but in your query you stated that after a lapse of your 18 years married life when your son is 14 years of age your wife suddenly left your place. I could not understand what has been happened that your wife suddenly left your shelter and started living with your brother-in-law just for some monitory benefits? Are you hiding something?
V R SHROFF
(Expert) 15 June 2014
Can you accommodate your brother in law in your house with your wife? as he is alone, he won't be financial burden to you.
Nothing wrong trying it for six months to save your married life.
The attachment of your wife with her brother cannot be cut off by you.
so friction will increase day by day , leading to breakdown of your matrimonial tie.
It need to be diverted, and ...
Think it over, Make a problem, an opportunity, by living together,
A bit ut of way, but a quick-fix solution..
Think it over.
For your wife, both relations are delicate, sharp edged, and
Sister brother relations are blood relations, not yours.
So deal diplomatically, and enjoy life, shift little burden to ur BIL, Make BIL an additional supporting friend, rather than a difficult enemy.
Asand when a elderly BIL is sinle, widower, etc, chances of his sister joining, leaving husband are quite more.
Over and above , wife is not at loss due to DV, 125, mtn , ewven if you Divorce.
So you loose the battle if you fight. So try to do as advised..
All need warmth and close love of near and dear. BIL is dearer due to his bachelor-ship and blood relations. Your wife no more need you due to her single brother.
Had he been married, his wife would have pushed your wife out.
You should have got him married before 10-15 years.
Now do not repent your mistake, and join hands with him.
In one similar circumstances, my client divorced his wife at age of 60!! same cause of action..both highly educated and earning!!It happens, and it only happens...
Raj Kumar Makkad
(Expert) 16 June 2014
This is more personal dealing problem rather of legal so better to sort it out with the intervention of common friends/relatives otherwise legal opinion has already been provided to you.
T. Kalaiselvan, Advocate
(Expert) 16 June 2014
I think all the experts have opined and advised well and very properly leaving nothing more to add, if added it will be repetition.
