first cousin marriage
rajni
(Querist) 19 June 2015
This query is : Resolved
I want to get married to my first cousin . son of my mother's brother. I knew its illegal but can we get married with permission of our parents. If yes what is the procedure . or else if parents won't allowed can we stay without marriage would they sperate us
rajni
(Querist) 19 June 2015
I want to get married to my first cousin . son of my mother's brother. I knew its illegal but can we get married with permission of our parents. If yes what is the procedure . or else if parents won't allowed can we stay without marriage would they sperate us
Anirudh
(Expert) 19 June 2015
If you are a south Indian where the customs allow such a marriage it cannot be a problem.
In other areas in the country, it is a prohibited degree of relationship and as such is invalid. Even if your parents agree, it will create problem for you in future. Better avoid it. Now in your infatuation stage it may appear that both cannot live without each other. It only shows that both of you have not even grown up mentally properly to see things clearly. Both of you need proper counselling.
Rest is left to you.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 19 June 2015
Permission of your parents can not make an illegal act as legal. This is prohibited degree of relationship provided allowed by customs.
rajni
(Querist) 19 June 2015
We both are well independent and mature enough to take our life decision...after thinking a lot finally decided to stay together .its not like that we did not tried to get separate but always push to each other. Now we both are 30+ and had 10yrs relationship .We do not want to hurt our family and culture but now we need to finally decide what to do....1) to stay together without marriage or
2) get separated.
If there is any chances that we can stay without marriage together we would diffiently do stay together and if parents disallowed our relationship can they legally separate us . As a major can we both decide to stay together ...can our union be leads to raised some legal issue.
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 19 June 2015
Why on earth few people can not traverse beyond their doorstep.
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 19 June 2015
You are seeking legal opinion on incest.
It has been rendered by experts.
You may seek medical opinion also.The doctor may opine that children from such relations are likely not to be healthy.
Dr V. Nageswara Rao
(Expert) 20 June 2015
If you are a South Indian and the custom of marrying maternal uncle's children or paternal aunt's children is in vogue, you can marry under HM Act. It is not illegal.
Dr J C Vashista
(Expert) 20 June 2015
Well advised by experts, I agree.
It would be better not only for you (both) but also all other members of your family/ society and children (God may bless)to get separated for ever.
a) Legally it falls in prohibited degree of relation to get married.
b) Socially it is a brother-sister relation which shall get converted in husband-wife, hence does not sound well in the society, where the society do neither recognize, agree nor allow.
c) Morally it is absolutely unethical.
Rest, it is your personal decision, where you are mature enough. I reiterate to abandon this idea and relationship.
Dr V. Nageswara Rao
(Expert) 20 June 2015
In South India such a marriage is permitted and it is not at al illegal. There is no social taboo or stigma. You can safely exclude legal and social angle.
From the point of Eugenics and health of the progeny, it is said that consanguineous marriages are bad.
SAINATH DEVALLA
(Expert) 20 June 2015
U R mother's brother's son is not UR first cousin on UR maternal side,if it was UR mother's sister's son he would have been UR first cousin.This custom is prevalent in entire south india more so in the aryan and dravidian culture.
If UR a south indian U can certainly marry a cousin who is a nephew of UR mother and not a sapinda relationship.
Dr V. Nageswara Rao
(Expert) 20 June 2015
Definition of First Cousin: Your first cousins are the people in your family who have two of the same grandparents as you. In other words, they are the children of your aunts and uncles.
But in South India, you cannot marry your father's brother's kids, or mother's sister's kids but you can marry your father's sister's kids, and mother's brother's kids.
rajni
(Querist) 22 June 2015
Legal action of parents to file any case only on our relationship or union is possible
