Harassment by my husband
meghana
(Querist) 10 June 2018
This query is : Open
i am a married woman, we have no kids, i and my husband co-own a property, since my husband is paying EMI alone he is harassing me to work so that the financial burden can be equally shared.my husband is taking care of my in-laws. what to do ? please advise. is my husband correct in forcing me to work.
Vijay Raj Mahajan
(Expert) 10 June 2018
As life-partner and co-owner of the immovable property you should share financial responsibilities with your husband. He being sole earning member of the family, with responsibility of his mother as well payment of emi of bank loan for property, you should be sharing his burden if you can do it because of your educational qualifications.
Guest
(Expert) 10 June 2018
Rights and responsibilities of both the husband and wife are equal. Also, wife is called better half of a man and also that there is always a woman behind the success of a man. Similarly, according to me, there is always a woman behind the destruction of a man also. So, it is solely up to you, whaich part of a woman you would prefer to play. If you feel even a bit of responsibility towards your husband and his family, you must cooperate him at least till the time he becomes self sufficient to bear all the responsibilities of a family. Moreover, if a property has been bought that is for the convenience, ease and happiness of the family members and that will be solely for you and children after his parents expire, as the most part of the time of a woman is spent at home.
However, if you treat it as harassment by your husband, to load unbearable financial burden due to your non-cooperation can equally be termed as harassment by you.
Ms.Usha Kapoor
(Expert) 11 June 2018
Stop sitting idle. Start taking up some gainful employment. Both you and your husband Jointly hold financial responsibilities and EMIs can be paid in no time. Your husband was right in asking you to work.
Dr J C Vashista
(Expert) 11 June 2018
What is your reservation and problem in non-cooperating with your husband, family and in-laws?
When you are capable, able bodied person and required/ permitted to work, why do you intend to sit idle?
meghana
(Querist) 11 June 2018
i am not sharing the EMI because i have my own investments like i am paying for my insurance, mutual funds and other financial bonds. thats all my hard earned money from my previous job. my question is how can my husband force me to pay EMI. is it not correct that a man must beg to support his family ? and can i get permanent alimony if i file for divorce or MCD ?
Guest
(Expert) 12 June 2018
Great expectation! A man must beg to support his family, but a woman, despite having been able to share the property of the husband, even during his life time, without any investment, must protect her savings and expect alimony also from her husband!
As you said, "i am not sharing the EMI because i have my own investments like i am paying for my insurance, mutual funds and other financial bonds. thats all my hard earned money from my previous job. my question is how can my husband force me to pay EMI. is it not correct that a man must beg to support his family ? and can i get permanent alimony if i file for divorce or MCD ?" that is really a great idea of lucrative earning out of marriage!
By the way, what was your real purpose of making marriage?
Vijay Raj Mahajan
(Expert) 12 June 2018
No you may not be entitled to get any permanent alimony, because of your financial investments in insurance, mutual funds etc., even though you may be unemployed presently the sound financial status you have with your investment will even prevent any maintenance from the Family Court. The Mutual Consent Divorce is good way to come out of troubled marriage and the settlement of the permanent alimony and maintenance directly with husband rather seeking it through court can get you some amount which as stated above may not get you if you file individually for divorce against the husband that too you hardly have any suitable ground to get.
Guest
(Expert) 13 June 2018
Ms. Usha kapoor,
Sticking to your earlier view has no relevance, as that does not contain answer to the new question of the querist, where she asked, "my question is how can my husband force me to pay EMI. is it not correct that a man must beg to support his family ?" and can i get permanent alimony if i file for divorce or MCD?"
You could better have replied on this question, rather than repeatedly sticking to your old advice.
Guest
(Expert) 13 June 2018
Ms. Usha kapoor,
Sticking to your earlier view has no relevance, as that does not contain answer to the new question of the querist, where she asked, "my question is how can my husband force me to pay EMI. is it not correct that a man must beg to support his family ? and can i get permanent alimony if i file for divorce or MCD?"
You could better have replied on this question, rather than repeatedly sticking to your old advice.
Guest
(Expert) 13 June 2018
Ms. Usha kapoor,
Sticking to your earlier view has no relevance, as that does not contain answer to the new question of the querist, where she asked, "my question is how can my husband force me to pay EMI. is it not correct that a man must beg to support his family ? and can i get permanent alimony if i file for divorce or MCD?"
You could better have replied on this question, rather than repeatedly sticking to your old advice.
