Husband has filed rcr
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Anonymous
(Querist) 09 December 2024
This query is : Resolved
Sir,
I was married on 20 June 2021.My husband and in laws are very abusive.I had always adjusted with my husband and his parents.Due to our workplace being in a different city we agreed to stay in a rental place,wherein I used to pay rent and take care of all expenses,my husband never took any responsibility.Every weekends we used to go to inlaws place ,wherein husband would leave me at his house and go out with his friends and come back home late.Meanwhile my mothe rin law was very abusive and controlling.I am an introvert and do not talk much i feel scared of people easily.I was very scared of my mother in law.If any chance I did not do as she told she would complain with my husband and create fights.I never let my parents know about my plight as I did not want to hurt them.And right from day of marriage my husband's family had made a rule that I had to call my mother in law on daily bais.My mother in law always scolded me over phone and never spoke nicely.Due to my work timings sometimes I was not able to call my mothe rin law or was unable to pick calls...then she would complain to my husband and he would twist my hands and confiscate my phone..In the month of September 2022 i conceived.Doctor had forbid me travel.so only my husband used to go to his parents place on weekends the phone calls and abuses continued ove rphone.My husband used to spend most of his time in gym and friends .so I had no support during pregnancy.during later month of my pregnancy I had begged my mil to let my husband atleast come back at night on weekends ,as I was scared as nothing mite hppn.but she refused telling I had to learn staying alone.Due to all the stress i prematurely delivered baby in 2023 may.My husband turned very abusive after that ,he had no concern for baby or me.His mother also had come to stay for few weeks wherein she would create fights between me and husband.she would force me to do work ,immediately after discharge from hospital (c section).she would feed some concoctions ,tap water etc to baby and baby used to be sick.Even though I had begged her not to do so.she would tell my husband and my husband would pul away baby from my hands and take to his mother.As it was very difficult for me manage all responsibility with a little baby and no safety also the rented place were we were staying was interior without access to shops,cabs etc.i shifted to my father's apartment when baby was five months old along with my husband I agree to pay rent to my father.after tej shift also my husband used to neglect us.Go to his parental home on weekenda come back on Monday and shout and fight for no reason .I used to beg my husband not to fight or shout in front of babyut he woudl never listen.within few days he abondomed me n baby.Meanwhile my aprents also came to know about the abuses and they asked my husband and his parents to come for a discussion to rsolve any issues.but my mother in law refused to come.Father in law mad husband came for discussion,but instead of compromise they were blaming me..My husband never came back after tht to even see baby(expect twice).I am taking all household nad babies responsibility.he went to many of relatives place and saying bad things about me and my family.he even went to a restaurant of family friend to complain about us.evry where he tells he wants me and baby to ce back to him.while it was him who abodnoned us.He came hoem twice and demanded taht I initiate divorce.asking me to watsapp him asking for divorce which I refused,he has threatened to torture me.Now he has filed a case for restitution of conjugal rights and sending notice even to my office address.
I am very scared of going to court and talking in front of many people.My husband is very good at talking .When I am scared I tend to get panic atatcks and unable to speak.He knows all this and is purposely torturing me.What should I do.Will he be able to take my baby away from.me.How can I protect my baby and myself from my husband and in laws.
T. Kalaiselvan, Advocate
(Expert) 09 December 2024
If you don't want to give him divorce then you accept his RCR petition stating that you are always willing to live with him except that his arrogance and his parents abusive behaviour which hesitates you from going to his parents house and that you are ready to live with him in a separate accommodation provided he assures that he will not do physical or verbal harm to you and your child.
You have to speak before court and express your problems and feelings without any fear, at least you may instruct your lawyer to speak on your behalf.
Querist :
Anonymous
(Querist) 09 December 2024
Thank u sir for your reply
