Mental harassment, emotional blackmailing and extortion
S. A. Wasim
(Querist) 27 March 2016
This query is : Resolved
Hi All,
I am a Muslim guy who was in a relationship with a Hindu girl. I have been helping my ex girlfriend financially since we got into a relationship. She got pregnant while we were in a relationship and she got the child aborted. Before she broke up with me she claimed to be pregnant again but the test came negative. After we broke up, she started asking for money and told me to pay every penny she spent on me. I agreed because I never wanted her to be in trouble. She them claimed that she was pregnant and got the child aborted again. She had complication and paid 60k for treatment. She asked me to pay it too because it was my fault.
She also stated that he personal loan with HDFC was in default, again claimed my fault, and because of the police case needs to settle it with 2 lakh. She emotionally blackmailed me to sign some loan document and took 10 signed cheques from me. I've been paying 28k a month to her for it. She has been asking for more money every now and then claiming due to the complications her uterus is infected which needs to be removed. She did not let me take her to the hospital and kept asking for more money to get the operation done and get the uterus removed.
At this time I asked her for proof which she refused to show saying she doesn't need to prove anything. The loan documents which she got me signed with the help of her office friend is the one who she has been paying 28k which she is taking from me. I now got to know that she is engaged to the same guy.
I feel they both have plotted together to keep on taking money from me and I still have to make another 8 installments of 28k. No proof of loan provided to me yet. Please let me how can I save myself from them. I'm becoming financially weak month over month and going into depression.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate 
(Expert) 28 March 2016
you are just reaping what you have sown.
In case she files criminal case then cost of bail and litigation may not be that much as it appears that she may get. But you cannot risk criminal case as you are on receiving end.
Dr J C Vashista
(Expert) 28 March 2016
1. You are an anonymous author with adoptive name of "illuminati 786" so the query should have been ignored.
2. However, well advised by expert Mr. Sudhir Kumar, I agree.
3. You have given signed documents to a girl-friend on faith, enjoy her company/ affair and other actions also[
4. Nothing serious to worry and there is no dispute to be advised by legal experts on this platform.
S. A. Wasim
(Querist) 28 March 2016
Hi All,
I know I have made several mistakes with my Ex-Girlfriend and that was just because I became a sentimental fool and never wanted to see her in any type of trouble. I do have all her text, whatsapp messages and emails where she has demanded the money from me by fabricating the issues she is facing because of me. When I asked for the proof she has denied all. She herself has written so many things to me that if it is disclosed in front of her parents, she will be in trouble. Truth or not, she has provided so much information to me in writing that if needed can be used against her.
But I don't want to do any of it as I believe in KARMA. I don't need anything in return from her. I just want to be left alone and not pay anything to her anymore.I am filing a formal complaint, not an FIR against her so it may help me deal with any unwanted situation. Please let me know if that is a good idea.
Adv. Yogen Kakade
(Expert) 28 March 2016
I think you need a good lawyer. Consult one or it seems you have to in future for sure.
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advocatepassy@gmail.com 971794
(Expert) 08 April 2016
It is clear that she has been cheating you with the help of her paramour. Just write to your bank to stop payment for those cheques with have not been presented so far. Ask her to show you all the medical reports if she wants any money from you, which should be got examined from an independent source and tell her point blank that you are filing a FIR against her for cheating. Otherwise continue to be blackmailed and remain an emotional fool
