What to do

Guest (Querist) 05 January 2015 This query is : Resolved
My wife fights for small things and she will tell she want divorce and twice she left home, I went and bought her back, even her parents supports here and when ever she calls they say come back. She keeps rules like i should not send money to my parents and i should not give any gifts to them i accepted and i stopped giving money to my parents to save my marriage as I have 1 year old kid. she fought that i should call only once a week to my parents else she will leave home and go, then i started calling my parents from office, she checked my call records and she started fighting and she threated me that she will leave and go. she always want to goto her native place and again she went there and told she dont want to live with me, i was left with nothing and i said you do whatever u want. she stayed there for 10 days and she started threating if u wont come take me back i will suicide, i went and asked to come back again she is not ready to come back. I came back home alone, now she tells I will not come to your home and u should not come to my home. If i have to call my parents, i need to call only in front of her, i am totally blank what to do. please help me.

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ajay sethi (Expert) 05 January 2015
you cant stop keeping in touch with your parents just because your wife dosent approve . if your wife dosent want to stay with you file for divorce by mutual consent

Guest (Querist) 05 January 2015
Hello Ajay,

Thanks for rocket response. I am thinking this wont give any good environment for my kid to grow, so instead of staying together and giving nothing to my kid its better to leave seperate. My kid is 1 year old, will my parents also get visiting rights along with me? I dont think she will go for MCD, for me my kid is more important,

Guest (Querist) 05 January 2015
If I go for MCD then they will go for DV is DV a non bailable?

ajay sethi (Expert) 05 January 2015
you will get visitation rights for kid . in india there is no law which grants grand parents vistation rights .

if wife is not agreeable for MCD file for contested divorce on grounds of mental cruelty

ajay sethi (Expert) 05 January 2015
there is no non bailable warrant issued in DV cases . if wife files Dv case you can appoint lawyer to appear on your behalf . make application for exemption from personal appearance . it is only if you violate any protection order passed by court would court issue any warrant for non compliance of court orders

Rajendra K Goyal (Expert) 06 January 2015
You should not bow before the threats of your wife. You may have to face litigation and tension but let us hope this may bring some positive developments.

You can try once again for amicable solution with the help of some near relative or common family friend.

Guest (Querist) 06 January 2015
Now she agreed for MCD, but her parents are telling live separately don't remove our respect all our relatives are here, we will tell that he is out of country so she is working bla bla

Guest (Querist) 06 January 2015
They are not ready to send and not ready for divorce, she threated many times that she will suicide, now even me scared to get her back, as I need to live in fear for rest of my life

Devajyoti Barman (Expert) 07 January 2015
Then take her back or file contested divorce. There is no other middle path.

Guest (Querist) 07 January 2015
Thank you all

T. Kalaiselvan, Advocate (Expert) 09 January 2015
You cannot live under constant fear and threats. Decide about what is to be done and take firm decisions. Let she give you any amount of threat calls, ignore them and go ahead with your own decision.